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Real men don't like it when girls play hard to get, because life to to short to spend any amount of time chasing someone as part of a twisted game that has no value aside from feeding a woman's ego and validating her fragile sense of self. I mean seriously - what kind of woman would even want a guy that "chased" her. The fact that a guy is willing to do that should at the very least give a woman an initial indication as to how desperate he is and pathetic.
I've known plenty of women that initially acted interested but went into hard to get mode after securing a little attention from me and I guess in another time and place in this universe, I could have potentially spent an incredible amount of time, energy, effort and resources pursuing them - but what for?
What kind of guy would ever really play that kind of game. It just seems ridiculous. The hard to get game is actually annoying, shows a lack of maturity in the woman playing it and is a total waste of time.
I treat women as rational equals. If I show interest, and they do not reciprocate at least a little, then I assume they are not interested for whatever reason, and move on. There are plenty of other prospects to consider, so I won't obsess about someone who apparently thinks I'm not a match. I expect at least something to work with!
To answer the OPs question, I know there ARE GUYS out there, who actually like it when a girl plays hard to that. It depends mostly on their culture, upbringing and personality. African guys & Latino guys for the most part. Not playing hard to get and easily agreeing to their request to date will be a turn-off. They want a challenge and enjoy the thrill of the chase. There are also guys in the U.S. (not in this thread obviously ) who appreciate girls they had to "work for". A girl who is easy and agreeable, will be seen as a doormat. A prize easily obtained, is not typically treasured as something that you obtained through blood, sweat and tears.
But I also want to add that the OP's list of what she calls hard to get, is not really that, it's actually just plain rudeness. A girl who's really hard to get won't be rude, she'd just be hard to pin down, have a life and not seem desperately eager to have the guy in her life. I should know, I am one. But there is a balance. You do it too much and too long and even the most determined guy will leave
I am notorious at playing hard to get with men that I'm interested in or are interested in me, but when I beat around the bush, men become disinterested. Why? Would you rather women be easy & forward?
it's annoying and grade-school. If I wanted to 'chase' I'd get a dog and let it off its leash in a park.
You know, there was a time not too long ago when men and women wanted to share their lives with one another. So many people act as if that's passe' nowadays. IMO, those who want separate lives from their significant other should not be in relationships. I never wanted to be in a relationship with a woman I needed a break from periodically. I'd prefer to be with a woman I can't get enough of. Guess I'm old school like that.
It's just another game women play. We guys have grown tired of your games. Personally I stopped playing games in my early 20's. I grew up and realized that women that play games are not someone I'm going to want to be with long term so at The first sign of BS it's out to The curb.
There are millions of women out there that want a real relationship. No point in playing games with mentally immature people.
"Playing hard to get" says to me: "I'm trying to be difficult and confusing for some reason." I don't do difficult and confusing because I don't have to. If a woman acts this way around me, I won't find her attractive because I can only imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with her: Constant games and drama.
1. Avoiding eye contact- everytime he looks at me I look away
2.Whenever he calls or txt I ignore and take long to reply
3.Tell him I want to hang then cancel plans with them
4. Pretend that I am not interested in anything he says
5. Bring my friends whenever we meet up
6. Talk about other men when I'm around him
I am notorious at playing hard to get with men that I'm interested in or are interested in me, but when I beat around the bush, men become disinterested. Why? Would you rather women be easy & forward?
I absolutely hate that. My entire job is dealing with trying to get information and certain responses, that are often not forthcoming, out of people. While I enjoy that at work, the last thing I am interested in is doing that when I get home.
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