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Sounds like this guy could be really experienced with women and has second intentions with you. You alone in a boat with a man that you met only 3 months ago....dubious....You are completely right on being cautious... you never know... may be he is a player????
A new guy started at work 3 months ago. Since day 1, he has been flirty with me but respectful. He asked me out to go for a boat ride, but I don't know if is safe to go with a guy that I only know at work, and to go by myself (me and him) on his boat....Is he trying to be original, show off his possessions, or simply has dark intentions??? I would think that if a guy wants to ask you out , typically he would invite you for coffee, dinner or movies or something like that. He has asked me lots of questions about my personal life at work, but I cannot put my finger on it, not sure of his intentions.??? I did not accept or rejected the offer to go on his boat...I kind of ignored the invite and kept on talking...He is realizing that I'm not easily accessible and is being a little bit less flirty and touchy -feely....I am not playing hard to get, just being cautious... Tell me what you think..girls and guys opinions welcome!!!
Hmmm... the first thing that comes to my mind about your post is that you are a lousy conversationalist. If a co-worker was being friendly to me and asked me out on his boat, I would then find out what kind of boat he has, how big it is, how long he has been into boating, what his boating skills are, where he uses it, and what he does with it. Around me, he could be boating on a river or in the ocean. It could be a sailboat, canoe, kayak or motorized.
And a guy asking you out for a boat ride is also just telling you that he is into boats and outdoor activities. I think that he's also just trying to find out if you are at all interested in the same sort of activities that he is.
His asking you a lot of questions about your personal life does indicate that he is interested in possibly dating you. However, I am disappointed that you aren't asking him a lot of questions about his personal life. And if you are at all considering dating him, you'd better start being a good listener and being less of a talker.
I would not go out on a boat with anyone that wasn't very skilled with it. And another factor would be how much you really like this co-worker of yours. Are you really interested in dating him or would you prefer him stay a platonic friend? Whether you go out with him on a boat or to a public place as a first date, you really need to think about YOUR intentions towards him. You don't want to lead him on if you don't like him enough back.
And last thought is that if his boat is a decent size, then if you are interested in a boat ride, ask to bring along a friend for company. Bring lunch and make it a fun friendly excursion. And let family and other friends know what you're doing that day.
A new guy started at work 3 months ago. Since day 1, he has been flirty with me but respectful. He asked me out to go for a boat ride, but I don't know if is safe to go with a guy that I only know at work, and to go by myself (me and him) on his boat....Is he trying to be original, show off his possessions, or simply has dark intentions??? I would think that if a guy wants to ask you out , typically he would invite you for coffee, dinner or movies or something like that. He has asked me lots of questions about my personal life at work, but I cannot put my finger on it, not sure of his intentions.??? I did not accept or rejected the offer to go on his boat...I kind of ignored the invite and kept on talking...He is realizing that I'm not easily accessible and is being a little bit less flirty and touchy -feely....I am not playing hard to get, just being cautious... Tell me what you think..girls and guys opinions welcome!!!
Maybe he wants to show off how big his boat is. Or how big his little friend is.
Did he have the notion that you were easy? He might have and is realizing that you are not and is not looking for a real relationship, just some sex . It's your call, but the boat ride sounds a little premature. It's like him inviting you to his bedroom for a first date. He's rushing, perhaps so you can have sex with him as soon as possible.
I was going to initially suggest you say, "Why don't we go have some dinner in the city and get to know each other first?" but after reading this, he seems too strange and he could get you out there on the lake and well...
RUN!
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