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Personally for me, it would not be the right assumption that I was trying to pick her up. I smile at old people, say good morning to bums and street vendors. I always smile and make funny faces at little kids, but does that insinuate something, I hope not! I just enjoy the silly things in life.
Now with that being said if I was single, smiled at an attractive lady and we got to flirting, would I probably want to go out with her? Sure, I think that's a fair assumption
That makes sense to me. I smile at people too, though sometimes they take it the wrong way!
As far as the bolded...see, to me the fact that you "got to flirting" before asking her out on a date makes you less of a complete stranger. You've talked. You've seen a tiny fragment of her personality. It wasn't, "hi, my name is BKSnook, can I take you out to dinner sometime?" There was something, however little, in between.
I asked for directions while walking in the city. This nice girl helped me, I thanked her, and walked to my destination. A block or two later I see she walking the same direction. I joked asking her if she was following me or something. She was just walking the same direction to a train station. We stopped for a chat. Introduced ourselves and talked for a while. Before we said goodbye she told me she wanted to see me again and asked for a way to keep in touch. We exchanged phone numbers and email. She asked me out and it was just fine. This was in Japan.
I asked for directions while walking in the city. This nice girl helped me, I thanked her, and walked to my destination. A block or two later I see she walking the same direction. I joked asking her if she was following me or something. She was just walking the same direction to a train station. We stopped for a chat. Introduced ourselves and talked for a while. Before we said goodbye she told me she wanted to see me again and asked for a way to keep in touch. We exchanged phone numbers and email. She asked me out and it was just fine. This was in Japan.
Hmmm. I might try that trick myself . (Now I know she wasn't playing any trick to get your attention.) It reminds me of when I was abroad and I would get lost every so often- I would often stop in the street to look at my map or around, and within a few seconds men would approach me to help. It would always lead to conversations because they inevitably ask where I'm from, what I'm doing, etc. It's a good way to pick someone up. My friends would tease me because often I would pretend to be lost just to talk to a cute guy.
I'm trying to understand why some men try to pick up dates out in public and whether or not that actually works. ...when a guy actually accosts you for your name and phone number or asks if they can "get to know you". I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him...
I dont know how old you are. But by this being so astounding to you, I get the impression you must be much younger. I think people do need to be careful about who and how they meet these days. Online in person and even after learing a few background things, one can never expect to fully know someone's heart.
But you see, some men may be still in the old school. Back when I was growing up in the stone age, there was no Facebook or PlentyofFish. There was no online. And it was commonly accepted for gentlemen to politely 'accost' women they were attracted to, in the market, the pub or even on the street. This was how people used to get together and create if not families, at least romance. I think the vintage term would be 'courting'.
But you see, some men may be still in the old school. Back when I was growing up in the stone age, there was no Facebook or PlentyofFish. There was no online. And it was commonly accepted for gentlemen to politely 'accost' women they were attracted to, in the market, the pub or even on the street. This was how people used to get together and create if not families, at least romance. I think the vintage term would be 'courting'.
Granted there was no technological avenues to meet women, is the old-school way to pick up female strangers on the street?
What about social circles, co-workers and college friends?
While I can definitely see the "cold approach" being more frequently used and accepted, it would be surprising if that was actually the most common way men and women met.
Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
Are you also baffled by his guts and courage? Is it shocking that some men have BALLS?
Are you also baffled by his guts and courage? Is it shocking that some men have BALLS?
I wasn't. I've twice been approached by strangers, went out with them, ended up dating them for a while. The relationships didn't last, but it was fun for a while.
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. (Now I know she wasn't playing any trick to get your attention.) It reminds me of when I was abroad and I would get lost every so often- I would often stop in the street to look at my map or around, and within a few seconds men would approach me to help. It would always lead to conversations because they inevitably ask where I'm from, what I'm doing, etc. It's a good way to pick someone up. 
My friends would tease me because often I would pretend to be lost just to talk to a cute guy.
Whenever this happens to me I'm baffled that a complete stranger would assume that I'd just go on a date without knowing anything about him (and he doesn't know anything about me!).
