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HEY EVERYONE, BRAND NEW TO THIS FORUM... DO NOT THINK THIS EXACT SITUATION HAS BEEN POSTED, MAYBE IM WRONG. ANYWAYS I WILL KEEP IT AS SIMPLE AS POSSIBLE, MAYBE SOME PEOPLE CAN LEARN/GIVE ADVICE ON THE SITUATION
few months back me and this girl (IMHO super fine) started to hang out. She just got cheated on a few months before that, and did not want anything serious, neither did I. Somehow we went from speaking a few times a week to every day all day email text phone etc. we would see each other constantly . (the behavior did not fit the situation aka we caught feelings). It did not seem to bother us. Her friends all love me, and she has relayed that to me numerous times. we did have sex, and good sex mind you, about a month ago. A little before that, I sensed her pulling back, and tried to maintain a semblance of what we had (not good obviously). Once we had sex she stated that it would change things, to which i said no. Since then I have pulled back tremendously because she wanted space and felt as if we were exclusive, so i have, aka not speaking unless she initiates, keeping it short and sweet, and she has been asking my friends why i changed and told me that I had changed with her.
Here is my dilemma. We have not had sex since, and barely seen each other (about 2 weeks). The attraction is still there however, and yesterday we spoke for about 15 minutes and the result was me inviting her out somewhere, to which she said she had plans, but I should go to where she was after if I could. I said ill let her know, and I plan on doing that, but need to confirm plans with a text that states "going after work 2 meet up w my boy, hit u up after 2 meet up" or something to that effect.
I do not want a rel. w her, and have relayed that info to her (i believe she thinks I wanted one) and Im 100% good with just being FWB, the sex was great, we vibe well, and have great chemistry. She is doing her own thing as am i aka. non exclusive, but do not want to loose her as a good **** and someone i can kick it with. I feel she likes me and is pulling back because she does not want feelings for someone.
How to i pull that back in to the point where we are not awkward with each other anymore and are ok with the situation again? I know play it cool do my think act like she does not matter, but any more advice to give seeing as I do not want her as my gf, but just want to re attract that spark a bit. I want to get her comfortable with me again wo. worrying we will run into a relationship. also tonight, wearing my best cologne, got a nice hair cut and tan, and going with one of my friends j incase she flakes out. advice is definitely asked for here, so please, opinions?
I think because she was never anything but an f-buddy to you, you should move on and find others. You sound a little too hung up on this one, and there are plenty more where she came from. Even if she's good looking, that's not really what you are after.
first of all you lying and have feelings more than FWB for her, or you would not be posting here. Second, the girl thinks you are immature and doesnt want to get more involved with you or a full time commitment to hook up with only you, which is what she feels it will turn into. If you have feelings be honest with her, but in a cool way. If you do not(which I think you do).....then dont call her again (regularly)and only proceed occasionally as her "homie", if it turns into sex at that moment , go with it and leave her alone the next day. Women need multiple partners and sex too if they are wanting to just be in their moment of test driving many d*ks , ya know!
Fwb has no meaning. By you not wanting more, she won't think much of you. To her, you're just a guy who wants to get laid like so many others she could have.
If you don't think enough of her to want more, then why waste time thinking how to get her again? Just hook-up with another.
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