Need advice!! (dating, boyfriend, girlfriend, long distance)

[bmantx]

ok... I am going to enter College, I will be working on my pre-med(prob. a B.S in biology). I have devoted the bulk of my life to school and studying and learning. I have made friends, ( male and female) but when it comes to dating, I just can't seem to find the girl for me. I am NOT the type of guy that cheats, lies, or is just trying to get into a girl's pants. I am honest, faithful, and nice. Maybe that is my main flaw, i am too.... normal, and, and not wild and spontaneous like a-lot of guys out here. I don't consider myself ugly, I mean... I am sorta normal. I have a-lot more to offer than the average "jock". I am smart and know what I want in life, well, when it comes to education atleast. So, can anyone out there give my any advice or tips, or maybe just comment on what I am doing wrong. Thank u!!

[Padgett2]

Nothing is wrong with you except you are expecting too much too soon. Wait until you are IN college. There will be a lot of chances to date.

I have three sons, and none of them ever dated until college. It worked out just fine. In fact, the boys that they ran around with didn't date either. They weren't the high school jock type and none of them were impressed by the girls that thought the jocks were something special.

[Rosa canina]

You're not doing anything wrong; you seem like a great kid. Don't fall into the trap of "the girls only go for the bad boys" mindset--it's only true of girls who aren't going to be worth your time anyway.

Get to know some of the girls in your classes, particularly the ones that pertain to your major. Just concentrate on making friends of both sexes who share your interests and the rest will take care of itself.

I was reading something interesting the other day about how girls significantly outnumber boys in most colleges these days. You'll have no problem at all.

[bmantx]

thanks guys!! u are right.. I have all the time in the world for dating, like my parents always tell me, the girl for me, one with the same values and mindset, will come later. I should just worry about my education right now. And also like my parents tell me, those girls that like the popular guys aren't worth my time anyway.

[Rosa canina]

Your parents are right! LOL, we have a way of being that way sometimes.

My own son wasn't a "jock" type in high school, more of intellectual like you, and now that he's in his second year of college he's got to beat the girls off with a stick practically.

Things have a way of changing drastically during college. Yeah, there's that same old "group" out there that admires superficial qualities, but it's also a time when the kids who weren't into that in high school really come into their own.

[kendy]

where are you from?

[miu]

I agree with everyone else. Wait until you get to college before worrying about getting a girlfriend. Why get attached to a girl back home and then have the stress of a long distance relationship or eventually grow apart from her? I never wanted a boyfriend in high school for some of those reasons. I actually waited until after college to have my first boyfriend. Before that, I just wasn't ready to have sex or be that attached to another person.

You really want to focus more on your schoolwork and less on having a girlfriend at this point in your life imo. Otherwise, make a lot of friends in your classes and make good career contacts for later on in life. You really only have one chance to do the college experience well.

[Fat Freddy]

The only thing you are doing wrong is looking for advice on an anonymous internet forum.
You said you had both male and female friends.
Ask them for advice.
They know you better, and care more about you, than anyone here.

[#Littledog]

Originally Posted by bmantx

ok... I am going to enter College, I will be working on my pre-med(prob. a B.S in biology). I have devoted the bulk of my life to school and studying and learning. I have made friends, ( male and female) but when it comes to dating, I just can't seem to find the girl for me. I am NOT the type of guy that cheats, lies, or is just trying to get into a girl's pants. I am honest, faithful, and nice. Maybe that is my main flaw, i am too.... normal, and, and not wild and spontaneous like a-lot of guys out here. I don't consider myself ugly, I mean... I am sorta normal. I have a-lot more to offer than the average "jock". I am smart and know what I want in life, well, when it comes to education atleast. So, can anyone out there give my any advice or tips, or maybe just comment on what I am doing wrong. Thank u!!

Don't worry, your world will open up once you get to college. I know many, many people who didn't date in high school who went on to college and met lots of nice people. My husband and I were both "late bloomers". We met Freshman year in college, started dating sophomore year and we've been together ever since (we're 38 years old) My husband has all of the qualities you described. Don't change anything about yourself.....you will find the right woman who will appreciate all of your wonderful qualities.

Oh, and if you do end up becoming a doctor, there are no shortage of woman in the medical field. You will definitely have many to choose from

[pushkinswife]

I was pre-med, received B.S in Chem. I had no time for men. I slept with my books and had no life. And it will get worse once you decide to start studying for the MCAT...