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Some things I've learned about him, he'll have a super close short-term friendship with guys, spending a large amount of time with his buddies then having a falling out with them. With most of them that I've known about that he was friends with.
I know about 2 of his exs that he had long-term relationships with, the first was like 10yrs and the 2nd was like 4 1/2 years. He talks about what a b**** his 1st ex is because of the kids. Not sure how that relationship ended between them. He doesn't saying anything about his 2nd ex. I do know most of it was his fault the way that ended. Word gets around.
His dad has been serving life in prison since he was young so me thinks he has issues of getting close emotionally. I've known him for awhile and his excuses of being disrespectful to me is getting to be a turn-off. He NEVER talks about his dad. I know about him from word of mouth. How do I bring up the subject about him afraid of getting close to me without pushing him away.
He's a douche and you need to clean up your contacts. Continue mixing with the crowd you mix with and your pattern of self destructive behaviour will continue.
Hey Katie. I know it must be hard, I dealt with similar issues in the past with my last ex. When they are stubborn and won't open up, yes, it's frustrating. However, I couldn't force him to talk about something he didn't want to and neither can you. All you can do really is try to support him and help him when you can, but if he starts getting angry that you're trying to push him to discuss something, it's always best to let it go. However, you do need to stand up for yourself and not let him walk all over you/treat you poorly. You deserve better than that, and he needs to know that if he doesn't get some help and/or continues acting that way, you're leaving.
I don't know why women INSIST on forcing a man to open up and talk about his innermost feelings. If he doesn't talk about his dad, it's for a reason. It's not your place to question why, respect his privacy and keep moving. He sounds like the kind of person that gets tired of people really fast, or based on what he's been through he's under the assumption that you're going to let him down so he intentionally pushes you away to see if you're going to be there for him despite what he puts you through. At the same time, you sound like a good woman so you need to let him know he needs to tighten up, or you're gone.
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I know it must be hard, I dealt with similar issues in the past with my last ex. When they are stubborn and won't open up, yes, it's frustrating. However, I couldn't force him to talk about something he didn't want to and neither can you. All you can do really is try to support him and help him when you can, but if he starts getting angry that you're trying to push him to discuss something, it's always best to let it go. However, you do need to stand up for yourself and not let him walk all over you/treat you poorly. You deserve better than that, and he needs to know that if he doesn't get some help and/or continues acting that way, you're leaving.
