What makes ppl want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with? (how to, women)
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I would say without something to compare it too, it would be hard to know they are the one. If you only shop at walmart how would you know quality?
Utterly absurd and an inaccurate, silly generalization. Using this logic, what do you have to say about the millions of people who were virgins when they met "their soul mate," married them and they lived together happily until death? All those couples were wrong, delusional or missing out on something? so they just "settled" for Walmart quality? LOL!!
People who happen to fall in love as teenagers and remain together forever (happily), didn't "need someone to compare them to." They knew from early on this was the right one. And if they remain married for 50 or 60 years, this proves the "logic" quoted above is specious in the extreme.
If you marry your HS sweetheart and never experience anything else, you will always wonder what you have missed.
How do you know this? Unless this has been your experience, how can you speak with any authority about it?
I married my HS sweetheart, though we waited until we were both 29 to make it official. Neither of us sit around and wonder "what we missed." In fact, it's never occured to me to think this way. I love him, I'm happy, why the hell would I ever think I missed out of anything?
I know several other couples who married their HS lover. Two are in their 40's now and one couple are both 62 years old. A few months back, we discussed this very thing and they all laughed about it. None wonders what they supposedly missed out on.
It's the people who endlessly date, get dumped and become bitter by being repeatedly burned in their love relationships who are missing something. And that's true love, which lasts and grows and enriches both partners. I know whereof I speak.
It's the people who endlessly date, get dumped and become bitter by being repeatedly burned in their love relationships who are missing something. And that's true love, which lasts and grows and enriches both partners. I know whereof I speak.
the irony is you are judging those who date and yet complain about people judging those who found their soulmates right out the gate. Great that your journey didnt require dating multiple people but for some it has/does so why call those who date 'bitter' sometimes you have to date some frogs to get your prince/princess
What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have one great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
Because some guys think the extinction of woman is going to end tomorrow. Seriously, some always think the grass is greener and that they are missing something out there. Some end up with diseases trying be a man wh-re*.
What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have one great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
I doubt many adolescent guys think about marrying at 16 or even 18. And to sow ones wild oats, isn't a premeditated thing. Most of the times people are just trying to understand the opposite sex and how to deal with relationships. Other times you have to endure several relationships to understand yourself better and what to appreciate in a partner you want seriously.
I doubt many adolescent guys think about marrying at 16 or even 18. And to sow ones wild oats, isn't a premeditated thing. Most of the times people are just trying to understand the opposite sex and how to deal with relationships. Other times you have to endure several relationships to understand yourself better and what to appreciate in a partner you want seriously.
What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have one great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
Its a visceral male urge, to find and conquer as much you know what as possible, thats all
Because some guys think the extinction of woman is going to end tomorrow. Seriously, some always think the grass is greener and that they are missing something out there. Some end up with diseases trying be a man wh-re*.
Don't be this guy!
Why do you only point out men? His question was about people in general.
What makes ppl (and especially guys) want to "sow their wild oats", to begin with?
I don't understand the underlying psychology, behind the concept? Why not just ideally have one great, long-term, committed, steady love interest, exclusively, that you want to marry and be with, forever? Pls explain the rationale to me, that some ppl have for wanting to have many, short-term love interests, rather than one or only just a few, long-term love interest(s), that goes straight into a marriage?
Not having read all the replies yet, here is my take on your questions. I got to sow my wild oats by having a few boyfriends before finally finding the "one". Even then, I didn't do all the "sowing of oats" w/everyone if you know what I mean. But when I found the "one" we went to clubs all over town, went out for ice cream at 2 am if we wanted to, saw stupid movies and double-dipped on some. When we got married we worked, we traveled together, did crazy things before having kiddos. Now having kiddos, I am fine with not going out to clubs, our fun now involves the kiddos and we have no regrets since the "oats were sowed" before they came along.
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