Breaking the Ice (dates, women, love, engagement)

[Hawk50]

What the best way to break the ice in a situation in which people do not normally meet?

For example, I have no problem doing so in a bar or at a party, when people expect conversation.

I work at my schools library, and the past few days a very cute girl has come in and done some work on a computer.

Today, she came in, smiled and said hello to me as Im sitting at the front desk desk.

How can I start a convo while Im at the front desk and she's on a computer working, w/o being a creep?

[Hawk50]

I'm considering going up to her as she leaves and just saying, "Hey Ive noticed you here the past couple of days, Im [name] blah blah"

Im guessing her smiling/saying hi is a good sign?

Can i say, in my intro, "and I noticed you...youre very pretty" ?

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by Hawk50

I'm considering going up to her as she leaves and just saying, "Hey Ive noticed you here the past couple of days, Im [name] blah blah"

Im guessing her smiling/saying hi is a good sign?

Can i say, in my intro, "and I noticed you...youre very pretty" ?

You're working at the library? You could say something like "I've noticed you've been in for the past few days, can I help you with anything?" I'd decline on making a comment about her appearance just yet. It might spook her, coming from a stranger.

[Raena77]

Just act very sweet and welcoming to her. "Hello again!" Smile then say "how are you doing?" Talk about the weather. Talk about new things on the news. You can talk about interesting things such as important facts or make jokes.

[BKSnook]

Originally Posted by Hawk50

I'm considering going up to her as she leaves and just saying, "Hey Ive noticed you here the past couple of days, Im [name] blah blah"

Im guessing her smiling/saying hi is a good sign?

Can i say, in my intro, "and I noticed you...youre very pretty" ?

It's too mushy. Say something like "ohh no, not you again!" and then smile.

[Rcm58]

Or point and say " which one is the big one", a good come back is oh! so your right handed.

[h886]

Originally Posted by Hawk50

I'm considering going up to her as she leaves and just saying, "Hey Ive noticed you here the past couple of days, Im [name] blah blah"

Im guessing her smiling/saying hi is a good sign?

Can i say, in my intro, "and I noticed you...youre very pretty" ?

I think pulling the "and you're very pretty" card too soon can set women on edge. Women (even pretty women) don't want to feel like a piece of meat. Of course everyone likes feeling attractive, but your goal in going up to talk to her would be to get her a little interested, see if there is a personal connection there, as in you two seem to have a good vibe and might have a great conversation over dinner one night, perhaps leading to further dates if things go well.

I would say something along the lines of, "Hey, I've noticed you in here the past couple of days. I thought I should introduce myself. I'm ____."

Then proceed to make a little small talk. IF things seem to be going well and she's laughing, smiling, touching her hair, giving you flirty eyes and clues, you could work into the conversation something about, "I have to get back to my work, but I'd love to talk to you again sometime. I know this great little coffee shop nearby," or whatever. See how she reacts.

[Hawk50]

Originally Posted by h886

I think pulling the "and you're very pretty" card too soon can set women on edge. Women (even pretty women) don't want to feel like a piece of meat. Of course everyone likes feeling attractive, but your goal in going up to talk to her would be to get her a little interested, see if there is a personal connection there, as in you two seem to have a good vibe and might have a great conversation over dinner one night, perhaps leading to further dates if things go well.

I would say something along the lines of, "Hey, I've noticed you in here the past couple of days. I thought I should introduce myself. I'm ____."

Then proceed to make a little small talk. IF things seem to be going well and she's laughing, smiling, touching her hair, giving you flirty eyes and clues, you could work into the conversation something about, "I have to get back to my work, but I'd love to talk to you again sometime. I know this great little coffee shop nearby," or whatever. See how she reacts.

This is totally my style. Thank you.

[Hawk50]

I did it!

We talked for a good 5-7 minutes, and she was very nice. We have the same major etc, and she asked things about me.

Afterwards he said, "thanks for coming to say hello!"

Problem: Ring on her finger.

What to do.

[fleetiebelle]

An engagement ring or just a ring?