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Agreed! Ive heard this primarily from younger woman. I had a gal I used to hang with say that about a mutual aquantence, she said "I just don't like the way he looks". This guy was a super nice guy, he was just heavy and wore dorky glasses. I told her she was just being judmental and she should adjust her attitude considering she had the creepiest family I had ever met!
I find it so annoying when people are rude to others just because they are not good looking. OK, so you don't want to date them, but still respect the fact that they are also people. That gal was simply wrong to put the guy down like that.
I overheard a girl talking about me as a creepy guy at the supermarket today, and it's not the first time I overhear something like this... I have really good ears, and so I tend to hear people who think I'm out of hearing distance... which is good sometimes to get to know thing I otherwise wouldn't but can also be hurtful.
In this case it was a girl i met a few days ago, she was trying to push a big type of furniture up some stairs to where the elevator is, so I offered her a hand... she accepted, I did the lifting, and told her she'd gonna love it here on the campus, that the people in the building were a lot of fun etc and that maybe we'd see each other around...I think she moved in a couple of floors up... I didn't even try to hit on her or anything, and I'm not interested in her either as she's not my type...
And then at the store like I wrote above I hear someone describing "the guy in jeans and green shirt, bla bla bla, but sooo creepy" first off I was the only guy around, second off I had jeans and a green shirt, so I knew she meant me and took a quick look around and see the girl I helped with the furniture a few days back at the other side of the fruit-section. I pretended like I didn't see her and they kept talking...I walked away
And what I wrote above in the spoiler is just one of a couple of times when I've heard similar things about me being creapy, and I don't really see what I do, but a lot of women (and only women) treat me the same way, as if they are part afraid of me, and I just don't get it. I mean I'm getting treated like a town-rapist or something, while I haven't hurt anyone since I was 13 or so...
So what do you think makes a guy creepy?
And what can a guy do to not come off as creepy?
Well...
#1. They don't really know you personally.
#2. It's probably more to do with how you "look" than who you are.
#3. Pay closer attention to your hygiene.
Brush your hair, wear clean clothes, maybe green isn't your color. Don't stare at people directly in their eyeballs without blinking when they talk to you.
It is hard for us to tell. We don't know what you look like, how you talk or what type of body language you use. If you want to know the real reason, I suggest asking a close friend, or perhaps a female friend to honestly tell you what they think. If you are getting this repeatedly then there is something to it. You may not be a creepy guy, but you may be giving that vibe so start asking people who are close to you for an honest opinion.
The bolded part is exactly what I think,
Because if there is something to it, then I figure I'd better change it...
But maybe, like you suggest i'm asking in the wrong place...
But the friends I have asked have told me I'm fine... Yet I feel like there is something wrong with the picture... maybe they're polite even when asked to be straight about it, or maybe they're blind to whatever it is, I don't know...
Maybe I'm paying attention to an immature crowd... But that doesn't really fit well either I' gonna need to figure out a way to find out...
It seems like you just helped her and chatted briefly, maybe a bit awkwardly, IDK, but that does not sound rude or creepy at all. Some people use the word creepy too often or as an euphemism for guys who are not good-looking, at least in their opinion.
QFT
1st rule to avoid sexual harrasment complaints: Be attractive
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