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Old 07-26-2011, 04:07 PM
 
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Romance is good. Trying too hard is not.

It's the simple things really. I'm not terribly romantic myself but I do enjoy doing little things.
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Old 07-26-2011, 04:26 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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Yes i do enjoy some romance..doesnt have to be flowers every day and candlelight meals every day. but, Once in a while is nice. and simply just perhaps sitting together quietly on the porch looking at the stars is great.
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Old 07-26-2011, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I thought that I'd be the type to really want flowers, candy, candles, poems, etc. - but I realized that I don't need any of that stuff. With my ex-fiance, I thought that one of our problems was that he wasn't romantic enough - but when I met my husband - I realized that what was missing from my previous relationship was just a feeling of security. I never felt secure or needed in my previous relationship. My husband makes it so obvious every day how much he needs and loves me - I don't need the flowers, candy, etc. My husband is not romantic at all - but he is really, really honest and sincere. The romantic things that he says from time to time mean so much to me because I know how much he really means them.

I guess to me it's the difference between a romantic feeling and romantic gestures. I can get the feeling with out the gestures.
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Old 07-26-2011, 04:33 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Romance is good. Trying too hard is not.

It's the simple things really. I'm not terribly romantic myself but I do enjoy doing little things.
LOL, I don't think I can trust a guy who tries that hard all the time. That's kinda sad, isn't it? (Although, they always seem to be the ones who take women for all they've got.)

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I thought that I'd be the type to really want flowers, candy, candles, poems, etc. - but I realized that I don't need any of that stuff. With my ex-fiance, I thought that one of our problems was that he wasn't romantic enough - but when I met my husband - I realized that what was missing from my previous relationship was just a feeling of security. I never felt secure or needed in my previous relationship. My husband makes it so obvious every day how much he needs and loves me - I don't need the flowers, candy, etc. My husband is not romantic at all - but he is really, really honest and sincere. The romantic things that he says from time to time mean so much to me because I know how much he really means them.

I guess to me it's the difference between a romantic feeling and romantic gestures. I can get the feeling with out the gestures.
That's true for me, too.
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Old 07-26-2011, 04:41 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I guess to me it's the difference between a romantic feeling and romantic gestures. I can get the feeling with out the gestures.
The gestures are also sweet, but if I have to choose between the two, I'd go with your preference, too.
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Old 07-26-2011, 04:57 PM
 
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Without Romance, it's just a friendship so for me, it's important.
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Old 07-26-2011, 05:30 PM
 
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Salutations, Brogain here. Romance is a key component in a healthy relationship. Like others have said, it doesn't have to define everything you do, but without it emotional bonding is affected. Many years ago I might have thought differently, but now I know better. I can definitely appreciate a rose left on my pillow these days.
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Old 07-26-2011, 05:49 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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Based on the response here, we now know that romance is important to women. But I wonder if it's as important to men? And what little things can women do to inspire romantic feelings in men?

My husband is wildly romantic which I appreciate and enjoy. But I believe that he is romantic for my benefit, not his. For example, he thinks the Marvin Gaye song "Let's Get it On" is the most romantic song ever. Ha, ha!
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:18 PM
 
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Extremely important...paramount!!

Love is all you need...
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:24 PM
 
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It's important, just don't suffocate me. If you do, I may leave.
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