How often does your male SO cry? (single, cancer, average)

[Northside904]

Originally Posted by captaincatfish

LOL...I gotta admit, I smiled a little when you called me 'hardnosed'...and you were there on the old 'men shouldn't cry' thread, when I laid it down about how I felt about that subject...I'm still here, though I don't post as much as I used to...I will still lay it out about how I feel, though---that part of my persona will NEVER chnage...

And to stay on-topic here...first a shout-out to Braunwyn---I got a little choked up reading about your brother, and like Northside, I give him huge props for dealing with the hand he was dealt...he sounds like the kind of guy I wouldn't have minded sharing a foxhole with (I'm ex-Army infantry) or taking a bullet for---and that comes straight from my heart

And to Chowhound...I've been there, man...when Catfish Sr passed away, I held it together all the days leading up to the funeral...but the night of, in the darkness, when I realized he was truly gone, I lost it...I'm talking deep, racking sobs...same as with my Mom---held it down up til the service, because I was trying to be 'the rock' for my siblings, nieces, and nephews...but once again, when I was alone, the enormity of her loss came crashing down---this was MOM after all---once again, I broke down...

This goes out to all who are here...everybody has their own separate, distinct way of dealing with emotion, and Northside is spot-dead-on when he says a lot of men (myself included) were raised to not cry...but I say this again, and Northside knows how I stand on this---I'm sorry, but if something moves me (say for instance a sibling or my MIL or wife passing away, or even at a movie or TV show that struck a chord in me) then the rule book goes out the window, and I will cry...and not be one iota LESS of a man for having done so...

That 'rule' sometimes makes as much sense to me as these cats who have those chrome or plastic 'nards' hanging from their trucks...real men don't have to beat their chests and holler 'I'm a mannnn!' at the top of their lungs...if you carry yourself a certain way, then people will KNOW you're a man, and you shouldn't have to advertise

In my Tim Allen voice....I'm a man, hear me roar! *Beats chest and grunts* It's acceptable for a man to cry at the loss of one or both parents, especially if they helped you be the person you are today. When you lose your mother, that hurts. That's the lady who sets the bar for the kind of woman you want to be with in the future. She took up for you even if you were dead wrong. I will keep it real and to hell with whoever doesn't like it: I will definitely shed the waterworks if/when I have the opportunity to walk my niece(s) or my daughter (if I have one) down the aisle. If something really touches me to my core, I'll shed a tear depending on how moving the act is. The most hardcore of men do cry; it takes something really moving to get them to that point.

[Clinton Brogain]

Clint here. I mostly cry before sex.

[Northside904]

On a lighter note, seeniorita makes me cry because she is so doggone sexxy.

[Dragonfly8]

My DH cries when he watches Extreme Makeover-Home Edition...

[Prince_Frog]

Originally Posted by Dewdrop93

Oh no! If you had told me - I would have done the crying for you.

Oh the pain was horrific. I'm sure had I been anyone else I would have balled my eyes out. Once I felt 3 guys hitting me on my left side and my leg started to bend and pop multiple times in my knee I knew something bad happened. And I still tried standing up to get back into the play. All I could do was hop to the side lines with one guy kind of holding my arm as leverage, so I could tell the doctor that my knee had ballooned to 3 times its size in about 2 minutes. All he could say was 'Yup, that's bad, here's some ice for it"

[picklejuice]

Originally Posted by Funny how?

Oh, no, are they showing Little House on the prairie reruns again??

Turn that thing off!!

Best show of the 1970's!

That little show dipicted genuine masculine qualities of yesteryear (once taught in the home) such as: excellent work ethic, loyalty to family/neighbors/friends, resolve to make it without renigging on a bank debt, personal loans (your word was your bond) etc., etc.

And yes, tears were written in every once in awhile. Why? Because REAL men can and will shed a tear or two every now and then with/for good reason.

[stan4]

Originally Posted by Clinton Brogain

Clint here. I mostly cry before sex.

Ah, yes...we forgot to mention those...tears of gratitude.

[Johnny Vanderburgh]

Originally Posted by Prince_Frog

When I tore ligaments in my knee, I didn't cry or curse, all I could think of was any chance I had at a scholarship was gone.

I didn't say much that night.

Pessimist.

I didn't have that reaction until my other knee got destroyed.

[kinkytoes]

Every time I hit him....it's strange.

[HurricaneDC]

Originally Posted by stan4

No...I have not cried from pain since I was a kid. And I rarely see adult patients cry from physical pain. In fact, it's so rare that when someone is crying, I suspect acting.

Which makes me think kids cry more from fear than pain.

I do think it's fear, not pain. IDK. When I broke my wrist I didn't cry I just swore a bunch and wondered what kind of damn fool breaks his wrist while snowboarding on a bunny hill :P when I had to get an abscess biopsied without anesthesia it hurt like hell and I think I shed some tears but it wasn't crying so much as just reactive tearing. When I had appendicitis it was the same thing because it hurt like hell and I was worried my appendix would burst.