How often does your male SO cry? (girls, pregnant, affairs)

[crabman1]

Originally Posted by indigorose33

Really? Just wait until it comes time to pay for their college. You'll cry then..you will cry like a baby.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by Northside904

Men are looked to for strength and guidance through the rough patches of life. For a man to cry gives the impression that he can't be her "rock" Most women want their men to be the protector, provider. If he can't be the protector/provider then why on earth is she with him to begin with? You have relationships where the woman is more of a man than the man; it shouldn't be that way. Then men wonder why their women don't respect them.

I don't think crying necessarily plays into that. Don't get me wrong, if a person is crying all the time (man or woman) it's difficult to deal with. But, there's a time and a place where expressing emotion is healthy. What's important, as far as being a dependable, solid spouse goes, is how we deal with issues that arise in life and that's more of a long term deal. Here the presence of tears are irrelevant since impressions and appearances are superficial. What I've noticed in some guys is an instinct to put their heads in the sand and ignore problems. That's way more problematic and perhaps a few tears would enable awareness of an issue to surface in their minds.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by crabman1

lol Yes, I imagine the thought of never again seeing you in the wonder woman outfit would have made me weep as well!

Crabby, that outfit is supposed to be a SECRET.

[Northside904]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

I don't think crying necessarily plays into that. Don't get me wrong, if a person is crying all the time (man or woman) it's difficult to deal with. But, there's a time and a place where expressing emotion is healthy. What's important, as far as being a dependable, solid spouse goes, is how we deal with issues that arise in life and that's more of a long term deal. Here the presence of tears are irrelevant since impressions and appearances are superficial. What I've noticed in some guys is an instinct to put their heads in the sand and ignore problems. That's way more problematic and perhaps a few tears would enable awareness of an issue to surface in their minds.

Men like to solve problems, not talk them out unless they lead to a solution. Yes, there is definitely a time and place for the emotional waterworks. From a man's standpoint, goes back to tradition. Most men have never seen their fathers show emotion so they've been raised with the mindset that being emotional isn't manly.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by Northside904

Men like to solve problems, not talk them out unless they lead to a solution. Yes, there is definitely a time and place for the emotional waterworks. From a man's standpoint, goes back to tradition. Most men have never seen their fathers show emotion so they've been raised with the mindset that being emotional isn't manly.

I think it's also hormonal. One of my heroes is a transgendered female to male scientist. You can read about him here. I watched a talk he gave at Harvard and he noted that when he started transitioning and fully transitioned (taking hormones, etc), he largely lost his ability to cry. Now, that's not to say men who cry aren't men, not by a long shot, but it may involve chemicals that vary between people and more-so between the genders.

Also, I'm not really suggesting talking things out, tho, that's warranted at times, but something as more of a reminder. For example, when my brother died my dad was initially in denial. He was not dealing with it and actually attempted to convince himself that my brother was still down in Florida doing his thing. Eventually, after a month or so, he came to accept the truth and the water works came on. It was good for him.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by Hawk J

Imho, love, passion, communication, respect are very important in one's marriage. Darlin' if your starving for affection, i might suggest gently conveying to your husband how important hugs, kisses, touching, feeling are to you. Perhaps he will get it & understand.

It would seem perhaps passion has been misplaced in your lives. To help start to rekindle it put little love notes around for your husband to find. In the house, his vehicle, lunch box, etc. Make time for yourselves to have a date night each week or every other week, so you can have some alone time together.

Some friends of mine told me their good marriage is better due to going to a 'Marriage Encounter Weekend'. Y'all might like to look into this.

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Best of luck to you & hubby my friend.

I cry when i see/hear about hurt younguns', animals, ladies, & sometimes a movie.

Hawk...I appreciate it but trust me, I have tried it all multiple times...multiple, multiple times over the years.

He's just not a physical person in general and we are just not compatible in that sense.

[max's mama]

Originally Posted by justthe6ofus

Hawk...I appreciate it but trust me, I have tried it all multiple times...multiple, multiple times over the years.

He's just not a physical person in general and we are just not compatible in that sense.

Well, I am sure he compensates in other areas then!

[Bandon]

Both of my husbands felt free to cry whenever they needed to. Which I appreciated being emo myself.

[max's mama]

Originally Posted by Northside904

Men like to solve problems, not talk them out unless they lead to a solution. Yes, there is definitely a time and place for the emotional waterworks. From a man's standpoint, goes back to tradition. Most men have never seen their fathers show emotion so they've been raised with the mindset that being emotional isn't manly.

And that's why so many men are emotionally challenged.

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by max's mama

And that's why so many men are emotionally challenged.

It's true.

My brother used to cry a lot. He was a masculine guy (body builder, very deep voice, always had a shadow, and super strong). He suffered so much with all his conditions, tho. He had a rough lot in life and good reason to cry. Perhaps many are lucky enough not to have a reason to cry. To add, he could really take it. I think he had 30+ surgeries in his life, prosthetic bone implants, brain bleeds. The amount of pain he endured, while also keeping a sense of humor, was pretty amazing. That he lived as long as he did is a feat.