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I get that. What does she say to the good relationship after the 3 months. Did she ever say, ok I want it. Or call me often or keep in touch while i'm gone?
I'm not sure I understand the question. In different circumstances I would love to just say date just me. I'll see how everything goes and in Jan, I will be back and we can take it from there. I had a really bad experience before when a gf moved away, so I don't want that again. I'm going to a different state to stay with my father for 3 months. He may not live that long, so that may be my only chance. Maybe it's time I talk to her (next time i see her) and ask her if she sees herself with me or not. She seems kind of happy with me in some ways, but it's better to ask, every so often.
I'm not sure I understand the question. In different circumstances I would love to just say date just me. I'll see how everything goes and in Jan, I will be back and we can take it from there. I had a really bad experience before when a gf moved away, so I don't want that again. I'm going to a different state to stay with my father for 3 months. He may not live that long, so that may be my only chance. Maybe it's time I talk to her (next time i see her) and ask her if she sees herself with me or not. She seems kind of happy with me in some ways, but it's better to ask, every so often.
You don't even know where those flowers came from and you only assumed that the bottle of wine came together with the flowers. All I see is yet another speculation and paranoia on your part and you are not even a couple yet.
Ugh, it must be exausting.
i know i am speculating somewhat. but things typically are how they look. obviously there could be other reason, but flowers on a non birthday or holiday 99% of the time from a date. She wouldn't have bought them herself if she is allergic.
I'm not sure I understand the question. In different circumstances I would love to just say date just me. I'll see how everything goes and in Jan, I will be back and we can take it from there. I had a really bad experience before when a gf moved away, so I don't want that again. I'm going to a different state to stay with my father for 3 months. He may not live that long, so that may be my only chance. Maybe it's time I talk to her (next time i see her) and ask her if she sees herself with me or not. She seems kind of happy with me in some ways, but it's better to ask, every so often.
I really truly think you should. I know I would want my guy to do this. I wish you the best of luck.
I've been seeing this girl for about a month. It's nothing serious or exclusive, but I like her. I was over at her place last night and there was a vase of flowers in her garage. I only sort of noticed because it was on the garage floor. They were some daisy like flowers. And then there was a bottle of wine in a bag in the fridge. She doesn't really drink.
Without asking, she said she had flowers in her room, but they gave her alergies, so she put them in the garage. I didn't comment on it at all or the wine. But it sounds like someone brought her flowers and wine. I'm jealous now, but won't say anything. At least the plant I got her for her new place has always been in her livingroom and the flowers are in the garage. I hate being jealous, but I can't say anything about it. I'll be out of state for 3 months, 2 months from now, so I'm not going to get in a real relationship. Do you think she should have hid the flowers and not said anything? I think anyone would be a little jealous.
You have already answered your own question...
You have being seeing her for a month and it is nothing exclusive...so therefore it would not seem strange if she received flowers and wine from an admirer....You are leaving in 2 months for 3 months and have stated you do NOT want to get into a relationship? My question is to you...why would you be jealous?
I don't think that dating someone for 3 months, then not seeing them for 3 months will go very well. It's asking a lot of someone too early on in my opinion. I did tell her that I'd be into the idea of more serious relationship when I get back, whether with her or someone else.
Well, I think it's only human for that to bother you, but unfortunately, I don't think you have any right to be bothered. The timing is off because you'll soon be going out of state and can't offer anything serious at the moment, and that's your doing, not hers. Not that it's your fault, but it certainly isn't hers.
So, if you like this girl enough to continue seeing her and hope she grows that fond of you? Keep seeing her and see what happens 5 months from now. Of course she will probably date others in the meantime, at least until she knows you well enough and you'll be sticking around long enough to offer her more. If you can't handle that, not dating until you're going to be in one place for longer is another option.
Your jealousy is very petty FelixTheCat......I wouldn't be pressuring her to be exclusive with you when you know you will soon be leaving for 3 months,...you never know...you might find that special someone while you're caring for your dad......since you've already told her you were hoping for a more serious relationship when you get back, she already knows where you/she stand....if you ask her for any more (especially before you leave)you may lose her for good.
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I know I would want my guy to do this. I wish you the best of luck.
I'll be out of state for 3 months, 2 months from now, so I'm not going to get in a real relationship. Do you think she should have hid the flowers and not said anything? I think anyone would be a little jealous.
