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Not sure how my qualities speak to insecurity.
Swagger-Just means a guy carries himself with confidence.
Approves of himself- When you can approve of yourself and not need another person's validation, that's true self esteem.
Takes charge- Basically leadership.
So you want a guy to lead you or do you share leadership when the situation calls for it?
I make suggestions. I never tell a woman "We're doing this!!" I mean, what if she doesn't want to skydive or rock-wall climb or bungee jump? I like actually doing stuff on dates. Going to movies isn't a real date to me. Nor is just going out to eat. Doing both is pretty uneventful to me as well. That's stuff I was doing right after I graduated high school.
I think you are reading a little too much into this. I mean - when I meet someone for the first time, man or woman, if they can't look me in the eye - it is usually a sign of insecurity. Either that or they can't be bothered with being polite - neither of which is an attractive quality.
I'm not talking about staring someone down from across the room - I'm just saying that when you are introduced to someone or are talking to them - eye contact is important. I'm not talking about just when you are hitting on someone or anything like that - I mean in life in general when you are being introduced to someone.
A confident person is not afraid to look you in the eye.
I understand that eye contact is important...At least in America. Culture barriers. Eye contact scares me. To me, it is a sign of authority. It only happens in a work setting or when I'm talking to my boss.
So you want a guy to lead you or do you share leadership when the situation calls for it?
I make suggestions. I never tell a woman "We're doing this!!" I mean, what if she doesn't want to skydive or rock-wall climb or bungee jump? I like actually doing stuff on dates. Going to movies isn't a real date to me. Nor is just going out to eat. Doing both is pretty uneventful to me as well. That's stuff I was doing right after I graduated high school.
I prefer a guy to lead for the most part. I am attracted to alpha males and I am traditional.
That said, in situations where I might be more knowledgeable than the guy, I wouldn't mind leading. But that is not my default when it comes to relationships.
I think you are reading a little too much into this. I mean - when I meet someone for the first time, man or woman, if they can't look me in the eye - it is usually a sign of insecurity. Either that or they can't be bothered with being polite - neither of which is an attractive quality.
I'm not talking about staring someone down from across the room - I'm just saying that when you are introduced to someone or are talking to them - eye contact is important. I'm not talking about just when you are hitting on someone or anything like that - I mean in life in general when you are being introduced to someone.
A confident person is not afraid to look you in the eye.
I understand that eye contact is important...At least in America. Culture barriers. Eye contact scares me. To me, it is a sign of authority. It only happens in a work setting or when I'm talking to my boss.
In the Asian culture, eye contact is considered rude.
Oh good grief. You asked my opinion. I gave it to you. If you don't want to make eye contact with people - don't do it. Even a person with ADD is capable of looking someone in the eyes when they are introduced. Seriously - I can't believe you are making this big of a deal out of something as simple as looking someone in the eyes when you meet them. And the fact that you keep harping on this one thing - out of all that I said, is simply astounding.
A confident man doesn't have to talk about who he is or what he does. His results speak for themselves.
Basically he is a peaceful, rational, thoughtful soul; if he becomes truly angry you'll never know it, until the last things you see are his fingers wrapping around your throat... but he still won't be screaming or yelling or waving about, he knows what needs to be done - and does it.
Ahh......I see. I get it! I to, and many others, can aspire to become todays "confident man" in line with other cool and confident guys.
Guys like the Boston Strangler, John Wayne Gacy, The Zodiac Killer, Anthony Sowell. They all knew what needed to be done, and they did it! Over and over again! The results speak for themselves!
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