What am I doing wrong? Can't get a date (married, ladies, college)

[darrensmooth]

Originally Posted by Texas User

We have to assume what he wrote. Can you prove it to me that what he has said is false?

can you prove its true?..there are so many things he could be doing that we are not aware of that are probably causing his issues

[Ro2113]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

can you prove its true?..there are so many things he could be doing that we are not aware of that are probably causing his issues

It seems like you want to think the worst about this guy.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Doctor Blues

Sorry (and I give you reps, I mostly liike what you say) there ARE leagues, Plenty OF Fish did scientific testing and proved that not only do people know what league they are in, they tend to date within 2-3 points up and down of their league. It's all over the internet.

Everyone would like to date up. Why wouldn't they?
I think people may confuse the Class system with the 'League' System.

If someone has a $250K a year salary vs someone who earns $40K a year then its a different class.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by darrensmooth

can you prove its true?..there are so many things he could be doing that we are not aware of that are probably causing his issues

No, but we are here to help him so I am going by what he has to say.

[Doctor Blues]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Everyone would like to date up. Why wouldn't they?
I think people may confuse the Class system with the 'League' System.

If someone has a $250K a year salary vs someone who earns $40K a year then its a different class.

No, I stand by what I said; people do not in general date up and down more than 3 "notches". Wanting to fly doesn't make it happen if I flap my arms.

Money is a separate deal-killer, and for a semi-rich man a poor/unemployed woman is no problem. The deal-breaker is if she's a professional making 250k - then just about any man is not "worthy".

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Doctor Blues

No, I stand by what I said; people do not in general date up and down more than 3 "notches". Wanting to fly doesn't make it happen if I flap my arms.

Money is a separate deal-killer, and for a semi-rich man a poor/unemployed woman is no problem. The deal-breaker is if she's a professional making 250k - then just about any man is not "worthy".

Sarah Palin's husband makes less.

[WakaFlocka]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Sarah Palin's husband makes less.

He was working for BP. Certainly wasn't making chump change, and Sarah was only making 125K as governor.

[Kiffy0793]

Originally Posted by NY Annie

You're not shy, you're not even picky, you're arrogant and shallow. What are you offering? What is there about you that you should have ANY date, nevermind one with a "good-looking girl"? Come on, tell us about YOU - not about your possessions, Mr. Shallow; not about how you look, Hal. Tell us about YOU.

And that is your answer. NOTHING. You have nothing to offer a relationship.

And you know this how? You've never even met him. Why is it arrogant and shallow because you want someone good-looking and wonder why ugly people get dates when you can't.

[artsyguy]

If you displayed considerate, patient, friendly, and thoughtful actions then it isn't you. The culture in the USA is abhorrent to say the least especially the putrid dating scene. The culture right now is very divisive: men vs. women, whites versus blacks, straights vs. gays, atheists vs. the religious, Hispanics vs. etc. etc.

BTW those men might look like slouches but in reality they may be engineers or dentists with high net worth too

Originally Posted by emirate25

I am good looking guy, good job, good shape, single, no kids, my own house and car but I can't get a good looking girl.

I see a lot of slouches that have these good looking women on their side and i am not sure how they do it. Some these guys I know and some are even unemployed and i still do not know how they pull in these good looking women.

What am I doing wrong? The only thing that I can see wrong with me is that I can be a bit shy at first but nothing else...

Please advise.

[Knight2009]

Originally Posted by Doctor Blues

No, I stand by what I said; people do not in general date up and down more than 3 "notches". Wanting to fly doesn't make it happen if I flap my arms.

Money is a separate deal-killer, and for a semi-rich man a poor/unemployed woman is no problem. The deal-breaker is if she's a professional making 250k - then just about any man is not "worthy".

Forget "class". Forget "leagues". Focus instead on the heart -- on how kind, caring, and loving a person is, regardless of his or her class, and how much money they make.

FWIW: also, think of it this way, instead...a relatively well-to-do person who is making say $250k a year, can always "afford" to date someone who is making $40k. I myself make a low-end six-figure salary, and I would have no problems whatsoever about dating someone making $20k or even $15k (or lower), if they were genuinely kind, affectionate, and caring, to me. C'mon already, be a little compassionate, and have a heart...b/c all the money in world, can never make up for the lack of real, genuine love