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Old 08-10-2011, 12:05 PM
 
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Default What am I doing wrong? Can't get a date

I am good looking guy, good job, good shape, single, no kids, my own house and car but I can't get a good looking girl.

I see a lot of slouches that have these good looking women on their side and i am not sure how they do it. Some these guys I know and some are even unemployed and i still do not know how they pull in these good looking women.

What am I doing wrong? The only thing that I can see wrong with me is that I can be a bit shy at first but nothing else...

Please advise.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:12 PM
 
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Do you spend a lot of time at home? Do you look away when a girl looks at you in a flirty way?
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:13 PM
 
Location: Up in the air
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I find it interesting that the only requirement you seem to have, or even seem to view as acceptable is physical attractiveness.

I'm not saying that you should only go for ugly girls, but perhaps you should re-evaluate your criteria.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:15 PM
 
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Your shyness is your downfall.
Most likely women are giving you all sorts of signals you are just too blind or shy to pick up or act on them.

Furthermore some random cutey isn't going to know you have a job, a house or a car for that matter.. so until you can muster up the courage to talk to them you are just like every other joe blow in the world with reasonably "good looks".

Force your shyness to the side... ever so often.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I find it interesting that the only requirement you seem to have, or even seem to view as acceptable is physical attractiveness.

I'm not saying that you should only go for ugly girls, but perhaps you should re-evaluate your criteria.
Not that this specifically relates to the OP, but I find it interesting that many of the single guys who can't get dates and fear the dreaded golddigger the most list their jobs and their cars and their homes as top criteria of their dateablilty.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:17 PM
 
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Your shyness is your downfall.
Most likely women are giving you all sorts of signals you are just too blind or shy to pick up or act on them.

Furthermore some random cutey isn't going to know you have a job, a house or a car for that matter.. so until you can muster up the courage to talk to them you are just like every other joe blow in the world with reasonably "good looks".

Force your shyness to the side... ever so often.
Yeah, I agree with you that my shyness is killing my chances. I tend to get out of the house but I am not a club/bar goer person anymore. I tend to like doing other things like playing my guitar, gym etc...
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:20 PM
 
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Not that this specifically relates to the OP, but I find it interesting that many of the single guys who can't get dates and fear the dreaded golddigger the most list their jobs and their cars and their homes as top criteria of their dateablilty.

Don't get me wrong, I am looking for a nice attractive girl, not a gold digger. I am realistic and not looking for a model type, but she has to be cute to me. I have a good personality,funny, charming BUT all of these qualities comes out after I battle my shyness.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:20 PM
 
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If you're not putting yourself out there, there's no chance you're going to get a girl. More true for guys than for girls.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:23 PM
 
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The guitar is not going to get you anywhere shug.
Maybe after sealing the deal you can romance her one night with a nice tune but you better let the guitar collect some dust before something else starts collecting dust.
The gym shouldn't take up too much time.

Do this today... after work go to happy hour. Go to a restaurant with a bar (more relaxed) and I'm sure you will meet some lady there. Look at her, smile (force it) and say "rough/long day eh?" and you'll start a conversation... if she is at all interested. 1 2 3

No money back guarantee but it should work.
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Old 08-10-2011, 12:24 PM
 
Location: southwest TN
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I am good looking guy, good job, good shape, single, no kids, my own house and car but I can't get a good looking girl.

I see a lot of slouches that have these good looking women on their side and i am not sure how they do it. Some these guys I know and some are even unemployed and i still do not know how they pull in these good looking women.

What am I doing wrong? The only thing that I can see wrong with me is that I can be a bit shy at first but nothing else...

Please advise.

You're not shy, you're not even picky, you're arrogant and shallow. What are you offering? What is there about you that you should have ANY date, nevermind one with a "good-looking girl"? Come on, tell us about YOU - not about your possessions, Mr. Shallow; not about how you look, Hal. Tell us about YOU.

And that is your answer. NOTHING. You have nothing to offer a relationship. There are SOME women who only care about your bank account, they will be around when you start flashing your bankroll. Go hang out in a casino; tip well so you get to hang out in the high roller lounge. Look around you when you come out - some woman will be wtaching and funny how she'll find her way by your side when you get back to the table. There's your date with an attractive (outwardly) woman.
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