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Old 08-11-2011, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Today, ask...but it might change.
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If anyone in Houston, TX has gone thru the divorce process by either hiring a lawyer or used mediation services could tell me which would be the better choice taking into consideration price for either a lawyer or a mediator and quality of service.
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Old 08-11-2011, 12:53 PM
 
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Is it amicable thus far? If so you might be able to use a mediator. Otherwise lawyer up.
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Old 08-11-2011, 01:28 PM
 
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Screw them! Since when are these choices mutually exclusive? Do both--go to mediation to buy time while you look for a lawyer.
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Old 08-11-2011, 01:48 PM
 
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See a lawyer and get the full lowdown on what you face. Do it immediately and only then act. Mediation may or may not be a good option. On a more personal level I have been there recently myself, I don't pretend to know what you are going through but I know it is hard, good luck.
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Old 08-15-2011, 11:02 AM
 
Location: Today, ask...but it might change.
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Default Hell hath no fury like the fury of a woman's scorn

Thanks crabman, but at this time I feel like I am standing up on a canoe. That is, either way I sway could be that I will end up underwater. Don't want to be demanding but then again don't want to give in to all her demands. It does seem like women have the upper hand when it comes to divorce. I guess cuz Texas is a community state. I did lawyer up cuz of impending doom factor. Just the fact that it takes 60 days before the case comes to docket before being heard in front of a judge who will determine if there is fault in the marriage. We will see what happens. Thanks for all the advice, I can sure use it about now.
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Old 08-15-2011, 11:44 AM
 
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A couple points in general. Do not despair. Do not give in to hate. Try as best you can not to give in to anger and frustration, at this you will likely fail in some cases unless you be a better man than I found myself to be. Try as best you can to be fair but do not let her walk on you. You will come to find that all that little shrapnel is expensive to replace, get your fair share.

In general I have lived my life trying to be the best man I could be and while I wasn't always the best and I made mistakes I could always lay down at night and sleep. I'm saying this because divorce brought out the very worst in me and it was a constant struggle for me to avoid becoming what I despise. I am so glad now that I did not, I would have always regretted it. A new day will come for you if you do not lock yourself away in bitterness and anger. Believe it.
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Old 08-15-2011, 12:19 PM
 
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Thanks crabman, but at this time I feel like I am standing up on a canoe. That is, either way I sway could be that I will end up underwater. Don't want to be demanding but then again don't want to give in to all her demands. It does seem like women have the upper hand when it comes to divorce. I guess cuz Texas is a community state. I did lawyer up cuz of impending doom factor. Just the fact that it takes 60 days before the case comes to docket before being heard in front of a judge who will determine if there is fault in the marriage. We will see what happens. Thanks for all the advice, I can sure use it about now.
It is my understanding Texas is a no fault state and therefore you do not need a judge to determine fault, unless you are filing a fault divorce.

My advice would be to try to work out an agreement together then go to a mediator and make it official. Your attorneys can write it up and file it with the court. Often couples are required to go to mediation to come to an agreement on seperation of assests before anything ever gets to court. Usually, unless a couple fights and bickers and can not come to an agreement, divorce cases never go before a judge for anything other than to grant the final decree.

Having the upper hand has nothing to do with gender but who has the better attorney and who is pro active in the divorce.
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Old 08-15-2011, 01:17 PM
 
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This is the same advice I would give to anyone, male or female. Do it yourself! If you don't, the only people who will walk away with full pockets are the lawyers. You and your ex will suffer more and benefit less.
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