Husband unemployed no motivation (mother-in-law, marriage, woman, love)

[metallicafan3267]

Originally Posted by The Siobhan

Okay, well that completely puts things in a different light. Have you had an honest conversation with your husband about:

A) Your expections of your marriage, what you need from your husband, and how you both can work towards achieving those needs.

B) His expectations of your marriage, what he needs from his wife, and how you both can work towards achieving those needs.

C) Your mutual responsibilities as parents who are ultimately responsible for the care of two children. How are your children doing during this time.

He's not going to change, already told me that and has a horrible temper. Doesn't like to do outdoor things, hates the world. But who would even date me though(we have two daughters)? My type isn't popular, and honestly a break would be relaxing. They're excited about school starting.

[benfranklinspants]

I think if farting makes your husband happy then you should encourage it. This might make him feel better about himself and, in time, give him them motivation he needs to find a job and get in shape.

Who is mil? If it's another woman maybe you should ask her to join you and your husband for a couple of drinks one night. Just go out, relax, loosen you inhibitions for a while and see where the night takes you. Who knows... this might just be the thing your husband needs to get his self-confidence back.

If you are having problems being sexually attracted to your husband don't worry, it's normal if you guys are having some problems. You just need to build towards that attraction again. Focus your energy on mil, her pleasure, her needs, and at the same time let her explore your husband and his desires. You guys will feel so much closer afterwards - and hey, you might even gain a friend in the process.

[The Siobhan]

Originally Posted by benfranklinspants

I think if farting makes your husband happy then you should encourage it. This might make him feel better about himself and, in time, give him them motivation he needs to find a job and get in shape.

Who is mil? If it's another woman maybe you should ask her to join you and your husband for a couple of drinks one night. Just go out, relax, loosen you inhibitions for a while and see where the night takes you. Who knows... this might just be the thing your husband needs to get his self-confidence back.

If you are having problems being sexually attracted to your husband don't worry, it's normal if you guys are having some problems. You just need to build towards that attraction again. Focus your energy on mil, her pleasure, her needs, and at the same time let her explore your husband and his desires. You guys will feel so much closer afterwards - and hey, you might even gain a friend in the process.

Uhm... mil = Mother In Law

[benfranklinspants]

Originally Posted by The Siobhan

Uhm... mil = Mother In Law

Then that probably wouldn't be the best idea...

I would still suggest going out some night and meeting a nice girl that makes both of you laugh. Someone with a nice smile that has passion for life.

[metallicafan3267]

Originally Posted by benfranklinspants

I think if farting makes your husband happy then you should encourage it. This might make him feel better about himself and, in time, give him them motivation he needs to find a job and get in shape.

Who is mil? If it's another woman maybe you should ask her to join you and your husband for a couple of drinks one night. Just go out, relax, loosen you inhibitions for a while and see where the night takes you. Who knows... this might just be the thing your husband needs to get his self-confidence back.

If you are having problems being sexually attracted to your husband don't worry, it's normal if you guys are having some problems. You just need to build towards that attraction again. Focus your energy on mil, her pleasure, her needs, and at the same time let her explore your husband and his desires. You guys will feel so much closer afterwards - and hey, you might even gain a friend in the process.

mil=mother in law, and I don't drink(or smoke). But the whole problem is the attitude, and the farting and weight gain only make things worse. I wish I could but just don't know what will help, thanks anyway.

[nebulous1]

Why don't these complaining women go out and get a job?

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by metallicafan3267

Yes wondering what I should do, the 71 minutes is the time it takes me to burn 1100 calories.

Might I ask exactly what you are doing for that 71 minutes?

[benfranklinspants]

Originally Posted by metallicafan3267

mil=mother in law, and I don't drink(or smoke). But the whole problem is the attitude, and the farting and weight gain only make things worse. I wish I could but just don't know what will help, thanks anyway.

Have you thought about counseling for him? Depression is like a disease that needs to be treated. Maybe you should talk him into speaking with someone who has dealt with people in you husbands shoes. If you give up on him who will he have left? I would def give it a try.

[Funny how?]

[quote=benfranklinspants;20434515]I think if farting makes your husband happy then you should encourage it.

Well carry me back to old Virginny............Huh?? What in the wild wild world of sports is going on here??

Gee wiz Ben. Really? I mean.....really?

That's it, goodnight folks. Later.

[WFW&P]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Might I ask exactly what you are doing for that 71 minutes?

Running like hell from her husband's gas?