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Old 08-15-2011, 03:38 PM
 
Location: US
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They're not men, they're insecure little boys.
Or just full of malarkey.
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Old 08-15-2011, 05:52 PM
 
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Look, if you're not being asked out, how would you know that you are attractive? The only way for people to tell how attractive they are is from feedback from other people. The mirror is no help. I look in my mirror and I look pretty hot some days and pretty stinky on others. Some days I look 10 years older than my age and other days I look 20 years younger. I always look thinner to myself than I really am and can only tell how fat I am by looking at a photo. Beautiful women who are very shy are even less likely to know that they're beautiful than a much more outgoing woman. Beautiful women who were married for the last 10 years to a man who left them for another woman are not likely to know that they're gorgeous--they probably feel downright homely and then if they're shy and no one is asking them out. . . Your contention could not be more false. And esp the one about hot people lacking personalities. They have one just like everyone else and in equal measures of bad and good--it's just that people like you are more likely to take offense when they're shy b/c you already have a chip on your shoulder where they are concerned.

Chip on my shoulder? Hardly, dear. Some people will try to boost the self-esteem of others, even if the feedback isn't true. Most attractive people do lack personalities since they've had people praising them they're entire lives.
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Old 08-15-2011, 06:40 PM
 
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It works for some, but it's not for everyone.
It works for many of us.

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Obviously.
Agreed.

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Chip on my shoulder? Hardly, dear. Some people will try to boost the self-esteem of others, even if the feedback isn't true. Most attractive people do lack personalities since they've had people praising them they're entire lives.
Everyone has a personality. You might not find it compatible with your own, but we all have one. To make such a statement as you have, only creates the impression that you are unable to relate to someone that might be more secure and confident than yourself. Honestly, there are so many people that are attractive inside and out, that such a statement is simply laughable.

A "chip"? Nay...a ball and chain is more like it.
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Old 08-15-2011, 06:46 PM
 
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To make such a statement as you have, only creates the impression that you are unable to relate to someone that might be more secure and confident than yourself.

I don't know many that are secure and confident than myself. Too many care what others think and I'm the exact opposite. I don't care what anyone thinks. That is exactly what confidence is. Just because you want to avoid reality doesn't make what I say any less true.
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:18 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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Chip on my shoulder? Hardly, dear. Some people will try to boost the self-esteem of others, even if the feedback isn't true. Most attractive people do lack personalities since they've had people praising them they're entire lives.
And making a statement like that isn't boosting your self esteem off of others?!

That came across as total sour grapes, and is utterly untrue. I know a lot of VERY good looking women with great, kind, outgoing personalities who are also very successful professionally.
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:27 PM
 
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And making a statement like that isn't boosting your self esteem off of others?!

That came across as total sour grapes, and is utterly untrue. I know a lot of VERY good looking women with great, kind, outgoing personalities who are also very successful professionally.

No, it's not doing it off others. I believe I'm confident and secure. Has nothing to do with others. Just because I don't care what anyone thinks and most others do doesn't mean I'm boosting my self-esteem off others.
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:11 PM
 
Location: St. Louis
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I've heard many people boast that they don't care what others think, but I've found that actually, deep down inside, they really do. Because generally, people who are not sociopaths really do care what others think of them. They may not let others' opinions influence their actions, but they care. They may not care what most of the world thinks, but they care about the opinion of those closest to them, or those in a social group that they aspire to. I don't see not caring what people think as a sign of confidence; I see it as a sign of bravado.
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:24 PM
 
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I've heard many people boast that they don't care what others think, but I've found that actually, deep down inside, they really do. Because generally, people who are not sociopaths really do care what others think of them. They may not let others' opinions influence their actions, but they care. They may not care what most of the world thinks, but they care about the opinion of those closest to them, or those in a social group that they aspire to. I don't see not caring what people think as a sign of confidence; I see it as a sign of bravado.

The term sociopath is thrown around like it's no one's business. Most people couldn't even properly describe a sociopath. Soomeone that has no reagrd for one's feelings, rules, does possibly criminal acts, manipulative, pathological/compulsive lying, no remorse, lack of empathy/sympathy, and promiscuity are all signs of a sociopath. Simply not caring what others think does not make one a sociopath.
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:52 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I never subscribed to any dating site, but I have looked through a bunch of profiles just to see what kind of girls are out there. I was surprised to see that there were a lot of girls who looked extremely attractive in their photos and a lot of them had a college degree. What I don't understand is why women like that would ever need to resort to online dating. They shouldn't have any problem meeting a guy outside of the internet. It makes me a little suspicious.


Single, no kids, over 6ft, educated, makes good money, attractive

that's a tall order and it's also what those women are looking for. There's nothing suspicious about it at all. In fact take a look at the about my date section on most of these Extremely attractive womens profiles on match.com

There are just as many good looking guys as there are good looking girls and there is a disproportionate amount of men that make good money as compared to women but one thing there is not is a surplus of educated men. In the under 30 crowd the rate of educated women to men these days is approaching 2 to1. Women tend to believe that not only is someone without a college degree stupid but probably not making any money as well. I'll get flamed for saying it but for women it's usually true. for men not so much.
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Old 08-15-2011, 09:00 PM
 
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Single, no kids, over 6ft, educated, makes good money, attractive

that's a tall order and it's also what those women are looking for. There's nothing suspicious about it at all. In fact take a look at the about my date section on most of these Extremely attractive womens profiles on match.com

There are just as many good looking guys as there are good looking girls and there is a disproportionate amount of men that make good money as compared to women but one thing there is not is a surplus of educated men. In the under 30 crowd the rate of educated women to men these days is approaching 2 to1. Women tend to believe that not only is someone without a college degree stupid but probably not making any money as well. I'll get flamed for saying it but for women it's usually true. for men not so much.

Yeah, your probably right. It wont be too long until men will become completely obsolete.
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