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I’ve ran into this a little more often recently. I'll typically meet someone who is actively dating which is fine with me. I'm actively dating too. What seems to happen is a woman who I am seeing seems to think that it is appropriate for her to continue dating multiple guys but frowns and gets upset that I am dating other woman. Of course her friends who I know also frown on me if they see me out, but are understanding of her wanting to date multiple men.
I'm a firm believer in fair play and treating woman and men the same (within reason) so this drives crazy. Is this a double standard or is this just human dating behavior with no gender bias: "I want the world but you can't have it too!".
Yes, it's a double standard of sorts but on an individual level, not gender-specific. Many men seem to have that attitude as well. I think it's more of an individual blindness which prevents someone from seeing how their behavior is the same as a behavior they dislike in someone else. I wouldn't worry about it, and keep on doing what works for you. Eventually, you'll find someone who is a mutual match, and you'll gravitate to each other. I always felt that if someone didn't like my approach, they'd move on and I'd end up with someone more suitable, anyway.
It's definitely hypocritical, but it's on an individual basis, not a gender basis. Personally, I say avoid multi-dating in general. You'll avoid a lot of potential drama.
It's definitely hypocritical, but it's on an individual basis, not a gender basis. Personally, I say avoid multi-dating in general. You'll avoid a lot of potential drama.
This topic is about people who multi date. Wouldn't be a topic other wise?
I’ve ran into this a little more often recently. I'll typically meet someone who is actively dating which is fine with me. I'm actively dating too. What seems to happen is a woman who I am seeing seems to think that it is appropriate for her to continue dating multiple guys but frowns and gets upset that I am dating other woman. Of course her friends who I know also frown on me if they see me out, but are understanding of her wanting to date multiple men.
I'm a firm believer in fair play and treating woman and men the same (within reason) so this drives crazy. Is this a double standard or is this just human dating behavior with no gender bias: "I want the world but you can't have it too!".
Of course it's unfair of her.
But usually it's guy who expects the woman to be faithful while they fool around... (espesially if they are having an affair: they get to sleep with their wife AND with the mistres... but if the mistress has someone else, they don't like that)
But usually it's guy who expects the woman to be faithful while they fool around... (espesially if they are having an affair: they get to sleep with their wife AND with the mistres... but if the mistress has someone else, they don't like that)
Off topic. I'm talking about single men and woman.
In this case it's going into a relationship with open eyes and then one person deciding the rules have changed with out discussion.
I’ve ran into this a little more often recently. I'll typically meet someone who is actively dating which is fine with me. I'm actively dating too. What seems to happen is a woman who I am seeing seems to think that it is appropriate for her to continue dating multiple guys but frowns and gets upset that I am dating other woman. Of course her friends who I know also frown on me if they see me out, but are understanding of her wanting to date multiple men.
I'm a firm believer in fair play and treating woman and men the same (within reason) so this drives crazy. Is this a double standard or is this just human dating behavior with no gender bias: "I want the world but you can't have it too!".
If neither one of you are sworn to marry the other as in "engaged" so it's open season on dating whoever you want.
Until either of you are exclusively dating EACH OTHER they can turn their noses up however high they want.
It's not their business anyhow, it's only between you and the person you're dating.
Why should it drive you crazy? You can't and don't control other people's feelings or behavior. Ignore it.
I do think it's odd that someone would object to his or her date having other dates, if he or she were dating other people.
(Got all that? )
That said, I don't think anybody should feel pushed into a corner to be exclusive after just a date or two.
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