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Old 08-18-2011, 07:39 PM
 
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Just remind yourself that being alone is far better than being with the wrong person. And, the truth is, a lot of us will spend our final years alone. That's the down side of taking really good care of your health! So, focus on making a lot of platonic friends while you have the time, before Prince Charming comes along to distract you.

And it's not a bad idea to visit online message boards when you just want to vent.
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Old 08-18-2011, 07:40 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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ya...its starting to get really hard to deal with, especially the more I hear about friends getting married. I stay busy but then the minute I have time to think, that fear returns... .

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How do you deal with it?
Stay busy.
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Old 08-18-2011, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Mountains of Oregon
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ya...its starting to get really hard to deal with, especially the more I hear about friends getting married. I stay busy but then the minute I have time to think, that fear returns... . I think this fear stems mostly from the fact that its been about 2 and a half years since my last relationship and although I've been dating pretty consistently, its all been very bad luck so its looking more and more like I'm gonna wind up alone (so it seems anyways, I'm sure I'm wrong). I'm sure I do something to bring about that luck, but since I dont know what I'm doing to attract such bad luck, my last option is to just cope..somehow.

How do you deal with it?

Darlin', the man meant for you probably isn't back in our USA yet, or in Aridzona.

Never Fear, there is another pea to match your pod, & join you.
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Old 08-18-2011, 07:51 PM
 
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You are so damn dishonest. You have another thread that has run on ad nauseum about how you had a hot woman who was really into you and you punked out and chased her away.

You make me sick. You cry because you're dateless and sexless and then you cry because you had a chance to fix that and refused to.
That has nothing to do with this. I was just saying that it's ridiculous to feel this way after 2 and half years without a relationship when some people (like me) have managed it for a lot longer.

Who said I was complaining about being dateless and sexless? I was stating a fact. That's all.
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Old 08-18-2011, 07:59 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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ya...its starting to get really hard to deal with, especially the more I hear about friends getting married. I stay busy but then the minute I have time to think, that fear returns... . I think this fear stems mostly from the fact that its been about 2 and a half years since my last relationship and although I've been dating pretty consistently, its all been very bad luck so its looking more and more like I'm gonna wind up alone (so it seems anyways, I'm sure I'm wrong). I'm sure I do something to bring about that luck, but since I dont know what I'm doing to attract such bad luck, my last option is to just cope..somehow.

How do you deal with it?
I'm sorry, Mir... I'm really sorry for your generation in general.

What I do is probably not helpful... As you know, I like walking with my Johnnie. I'd curl up with a good book or a movie or hang out here with our cool crowd. It's really the lifestyle here that's killing me. Had it been a normal country and a normal city where you actually meet people every place you go, I wouldn't have had any problem as I'm not shy and I'm responsive to people. If I really want to find somebody, I'll have to go the online route. There's simply no other way here. At least that's the way I see it in my age bracket and also because I don't enjoy going to restaurants and bars because of being a smoker. But even if it weren't for that, these are still places you go to with people you already know. The chances of meeting anybody in a restaurant are slim to none (well, to me there are hardly any restaurants here except for the very fancy ones; they're just plain eateries); in bars the chances are high, but most of those people you likely don't want to meet to begin with...

Also, as I've said before, I've had more than my fair share of relationship crapola and I can just hang it up. You can't, though. At least that's not what a normal young girl should do. Perhaps you should give the dating sites a shot...
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Old 08-18-2011, 07:59 PM
 
Location: Pa
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OP- Just call on me brother and I lend you a hand, we all need somebody to lean on.....
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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That has nothing to do with this. I was just saying that it's ridiculous to feel this way after 2 and half years without a relationship when some people (like me) have managed it for a lot longer.

Who said I was complaining about being dateless and sexless? I was stating a fact. That's all.
Quit the crap! Lucario is absolutely right!
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:01 PM
 
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Quit the crap! Lucario is absolutely right!
Good for you then!
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:01 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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That has nothing to do with this. I was just saying that it's ridiculous to feel this way after 2 and half years without a relationship when some people (like me) have managed it for a lot longer.

Who said I was complaining about being dateless and sexless? I was stating a fact. That's all.
That is such barnyard detritus.
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:04 PM
 
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Fine.
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