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Old 08-20-2011, 12:14 PM
 
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He invites me for us to spend time together. He has introduced me to some family and friends. He texts/calls people somewhat when I'm around him. Its like when I'm right there he closes up and doesn't say much. I know he isn't shy at all because I've seen how he acts around others, cracking jokes, laughing, smiling and talking.

When we're together, he barely says anything. Usually, if he says anything to me, its about other people. I don't either but I have expressed my feelings how I felt about him. Him, on the other hand, barely other than a little physical affection. I have an extremely difficult time opening to anyone about anything and he knows it. So maybe that plays a part of it. I consider him a friend, nothing more.

Once there was another woman with us and it really hurt my feelings how those 2 interacted but didn't say anything to him about it.

I've tried asking him questions, doesn't work too well and don't want to feel intrusive either. he has lied to me in the past then after telling him I knew what was going on, he told me the truth

Personally, from knowing him, I think he craves drama based on his past to get a reaction and do my best not to give it to him.
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Old 08-20-2011, 12:26 PM
 
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Because he is NOT interested in YOU.
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Old 08-20-2011, 12:40 PM
 
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I think he craves drama based on his past to get a reaction and do my best not to give it to him.
I think you might want to seriously check yourself on this statement and observation.
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Old 08-20-2011, 01:55 PM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Is this the same man you've written about many times before - the drug user?
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Old 08-20-2011, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I took the time to go back and read most of your threads, 99% of them are about "Boys & Sex". And, most posts conflict another. I use the term "boys" as you appear to have the emotional IQ of a 14 year girl, certainly not one of a 36 year old mature woman.

Your posts read like a daytime soap opera, and, I am really beginning to think that most of what you post is pure fantasy, not actually the truth.

Many before have suggested that you go to therapy, I too, would strongly urge that you reach out and get some help. This truely is no way to live, to be a woman on the outside and a child on the inside.

As you can read, I am not responding directly to your question as regardless of what the response is, you will just continue to post more childish nonsense, other posters replies to you go in one ear and out the other, nothing sticks.

Do the right thing for you, get some help, so that someday you can find some real peace and happiness. As happiness is an inside job, it is not garnered from another.
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Old 08-20-2011, 08:39 PM
 
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Because he is NOT interested in YOU.
this. also, what dollydo said.
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Old 08-20-2011, 09:03 PM
 
Location: On the "Left Coast", somewhere in "the Land of Fruits & Nuts"
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Check out the thread on "narcissists".
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Old 08-20-2011, 09:12 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Check out the thread on "narcissists".
Oh, gimme a break! You better gain some background knowledge of OP if you want to make suggestions!
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Old 08-20-2011, 09:15 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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The OP needs self awareness like.... IDK, the metaphor well went dry.

She just needs some self awareness. Probably fix most of her issues.....
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Old 08-20-2011, 09:15 PM
 
Location: The Mitten
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I'm lost here: You say you consider him a friend and nothing more, but you seem to want more. Are you sure you put him on the "friends list" like you have already said?
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