Why can't I be accepted as I am for a girlfriend leading to future wife?

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Wrong information.

Are you disputing that transmission of HIV through oral sex is impossible? The literature on the subject is unanimous. Transmission of HIV through oral sex is rare but indeed possible and cases have been documented.

[zentropa]

No, that information is correct. What is not correct is saying that people with HIV (not AIDS) die from opportunistic infections as a direct result of being infected with HIV.

[80sKid]

I know everyone with a gay or bi male friend will slam me for this comment, but here goes. Men mainly spread HIV to women and other men. Check the numbers at the CDC. Women are eight times more likely to contract HIV from heterosexual contact than males. Not to say men can't contract it from women. It's just rare. And there's no HIV/AIDS epidemic in the lesbian community. As a straight male, I wouldn't take the risk. No one's future is promised. But I wouldn't willingly choose a life of highly potential hardship. Not trying to vilify the OP. But HIV is serious. It was in the 80's and still is. Don't blame men for being turned off by it. That doesn't make them bad people or shallow.

[Childfree35]

Originally Posted by Miss Crabcakes

You should search online for dating sites for others with the illness. I know they have them and I have heard of people getting together with them. You do deserve love and a real relationship and I'm am sure someone else out there like you is looking for the same. I have heard of HIV+ people getting married and having normal lives.

Don't listen to the naysayers. Do what's right for you.

^^^^What she said. Search online dating site.

[Mikala43]

I find it odd, being HIV positive, that a guy would sleep with you but not consider you marriage material. That seems generally counter-intuitive.

I can see where intimacy would be off the table. It would be for me should the roles be reversed. But if someone is willing to risk infection with sex...... than committment shouldn't be a problem.

If a guy wants to have children than HIV positive would definitely be an issue.

I think the guy who that to you is a jerk. In general, if I were HIV positive and I would look for mates with the same diagnosis. It seems it would make things easier in general.

[imsh0t]

date someone also with HIV. That's the only solution I see. But don't have kids.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by victorhe33

date someone also with HIV. That's the only solution I see. But don't have kids.

Why not?