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I had a very convoluted childhood which I thought was perfectly normal until I left home at 16 and went to work in London, started meeting people who had "normal" family lives and started to realize how "different" and quite "abnormal" mine had been. I made so many mistakes in the ensuing years because my emotional compass was so off-base and I blamed my mother for those mistakes.
Certainly not unjustifiably so but after I moved to the US and in a long transAtlantic telephone conversation with one of my older brothers he hit the nail on the head when he said, "Without question we have a peculiarly rotten mother but you're an adult now. YOU are now responsible for YOURSELF and as much as I agree with you, the mistakes you make now are yours and yours alone as are the choices you make." He was absolutely right.
You were fortunate to have grandparents who fulfilled the parental roles which your parents were unable to deliver. But to cease all communication with them because of the shipping of a POOL TABLE? I'm thinking you're quite young.
Grasshopper, your list of Do's and Don'ts where dating is concerned is so filled with so many rules and regulations and replete with such a misogynistic bent that it's no wonder you have so many relationship/dating issues at 36 years old.
I thought courtesy of CD mods that you had your own "dating thread" for all these observations and questions?
For a date I have 3 requirements, show me your pretty feet, show me a little thigh, be dressed in a sexy sophisticated way.
And this dating thread is not about my experiences, it's a question which is why it's not in the "DATING EXPERIENCES" thread
One's relationship with their parents can be a leading indicator (in economics parlance) of how the person might fare as a spouse or parent. Obviously it's not a bulletproof cause and effect relationship, but it's a data point to consider nonetheless.
For a date I have 3 requirements, show me your pretty feet, show me a little thigh, be dressed in a sexy sophisticated way.
And this dating thread is not about my experiences, it's a question which is why it's not in the "DATING EXPERIENCES" thread
I think many of us are already very well aware of your dating "requirements" so best you stick to responding to the responses based on this new thread of yours rather than trying to segue it into more about your personal dating issues.
You were fortunate to have grandparents who fulfilled the parental roles which your parents were unable to deliver. But to cease all communication with them because of the shipping of a POOL TABLE? I'm thinking you're quite young.
That wasn't the reason. That was the final straw. My parents were extremely self-absorbed. My dad was riding his boat with his buddies whenever he was off and my mom was doing whatever she was doing. They were never around. Refusing to ship my pool table was just the final straw and me saying "You weren't around when I was a kid. I don't need you now".
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And how would you feel if someone said that they didn't want to be with you because of your situation?
Are people who come from broken homes supposed to live alone the rest of their lives? This is something that they didn't ask for.
Exactly. My dad was a major alcoholic, I think it is unfair that I, already having to deal with the drama of that issue for years, have to get rejected because he made a choice to drink without me in mind.
See, I don't get this. Why punish the child for the mistakes of the parent?
No one is punishing anyone.
Every woman is free to chose for herself, what kind of man she wants - and some women want a man who is emotionally healthy. Doesn't mean they're punishing all men who aren't - they're simply choosing to go with what they like best.
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