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No Braun, there is not. WA state is the most divorce friendly state in the nation for a person that was in her shoes, or so the attorneys tell me. At her age it is considered impossible to train her to bring in an income that would allow her to live in any close facsimile of the manner to which she had become accustomed during the marriage. This outcome is not common because there are few people in her situation but among those that are it is pretty much whats going to happen.
No she does not work, she has no need of it. I don't know what she is doing.
My sister is in exactly your situation and she lives in MN. She is paying her ex husband (an artist/house-husband during their marriage) alimony until 65 because he's considered too old to re-skill. He was given 50% of her 401-k and I think he will also have 50% of her Social Security. They have joint custody and she pays him child support as well.
I don't know why you think it's going to be so hard to meet a woman with assets at your age. They are not the rare birds you are implying they are. Unless you are looking for a 20 year old with a fat portfolio. At my age, all my female friends are professional working women who can hold their own, financially.
My sister is in exactly your situation and she lives in MN. She is paying her ex husband (an artist/house-husband during their marriage) alimony until 65 because he's considered too old to re-skill. He was given 50% of her 401-k and I think he will also have 50% of her Social Security. They have joint custody and she pays him child support as well.
Honestly? I don't see it that way. She entered into the marriage with her eyes open. They mutually agreed to the arrangement of him staying home and raising their daughter.
I may be the only person who feels this way, but I feel that splitting the assets acquired during a marriage 50-50 is fair. And I feel that alimony needs to be paid to the non-earning spouse for a period of time. I don't agree with the notion that a non-working spouse should be thrown out onto the street after a divorce.
Yes, my sister took a huge financial hit when the marriage ended that she will not easily recover from, if ever. That's what happens in divorce. If they were smart, they would have worked harder to keep their marriage healthy. That's my opinion, anyway.
According to my niece, my parents have told her that marriage isn't necessary unless she decides to have children. And she doesn't plan to have kids. In my family, it's very important that children be born within a marriage and raised by two parents. Having bastard children is just not acceptable. Also being on welfare is not acceptable and would bring shame upon the whole family. And that's the way it should be for the rest of our society.
I married for love. Not looks, not money, not status. I no longer have that opportunity. I can love, I can utterly and completely commit to one woman, but I most likely will never have the honor of her hand in marriage. Not even for what to me is the only reason that ever mattered at all. That is sad.
You sound like a good person. 20 yrs of marriage is a long time. sorry...Its nice to hear a person NOT talk about money- it doesnt fix anything and sometimes makes the relationship worse, esp. in this economy.
Honestly? I don't see it that way. She entered into the marriage with her eyes open. They mutually agreed to the arrangement of him staying home and raising their daughter.
I may be the only person who feels this way, but I feel that splitting the assets acquired during a marriage 50-50 is fair. And I feel that alimony needs to be paid to the non-earning spouse for a period of time. I don't agree with the notion that a non-working spouse should be thrown out onto the street after a divorce.
Yes, my sister took a huge financial hit when the marriage ended that she will not easily recover from, if ever. That's what happens in divorce. If they were smart, they would have worked harder to keep their marriage healthy. That's my opinion, anyway.
He's not working for that alimony. She is. While he was a SAHD he was working for the support via upkeep of the house and raising the kids. That's no longer the case. It's a matter of loafing at this point. He should, at the very least, be her housekeeper and perhaps food shopper.
Unless you have enough money to raise a child by yourself, having a child out of wedlock is like taking a vow of poverty.
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. sorry...Its nice to hear a person NOT talk about money- it doesnt fix anything and sometimes makes the relationship worse, esp. in this economy.