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Most people go through phases of sleeping around to relationships several times between teens and late 20s/early 30s. Each phase helps them learn more about what is out there and what it is they want. Don't short change yourself on this experience.
OK, you may be able to not sow them, but later, you might find out that you settled with the wrong person just because they were nice or something. Being sexual is very important, you need to also know that you are on the same level as someone else.
Now, if you had asked if someone who wished to sow their wild oats in their youth but had been unsuccessful might feel that they had lived under a cloud of failiure (that could haunt them most of their life), yes, that could happen. And God forbid if they actually got game later on, they will try to re-live the past and have a LOT of sex with a LOT of different women, much the same as some celebrities that struggled early-on will have a mansion that's too damn big and spend too damn much on party food.
Last edited by Doctor Blues; 08-26-2011 at 03:43 AM..
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This is going to vary by individual. The influencing factors are going to be things like social conditioning, beliefs, libido and testosterone levels, and personality type. Some men are very happy forming monogamous relationships, but many more will feel the urge for variety - whether or not they act on it.
Also, there are probably two major windows of opportunity for most men to "sow". First, prior to entering their first long-term commitment, and second, after that relationship ends (as most do) and a new one begins (if that happens, and it usually seems to).
Some may miss out on the first opportunity by entering a relationship too soon, but enthusiastically take advantage of the second opportunity. I'm probably in this scenario, but have now found my second - hopefully permanent - relationship.
For me, I feel that it is important. I believe that is one of the major reasons why my marriage didn't work out (besides the fact that I married the worst possible person) is because I had so many regrets from not getting to experience everything I wanted to. What I want to do before I get married is at least one girl in select European countries, and select states/regions in the States. Now what stands in the way is the girls not giving it up, and I keep getting older.
How important is it to a man to basically play the field and sleep with as many women as he wants?
It is something that should happen? A life phase? Or can it be bypassed with no regrets?
I have the ability too make this happen, but I am more of a emotional relationship invested person. I like to form a deep connection with those I sleep with.
The problem is I seem to find only temporary flings or one night stand type of deals.
I have developed a few deeps connections with lovers which is what I like the most but it is really hard to find that deep chemistry with someone. I am single right now.
So should I hold out in hoping to find a deep connection with someone? Or sow my wild oats or whatever.
My question basically boils down to will I regret not sowing those oats later in life? I am 29 now.
Tell me your experiences. Do you regret it?
Honestly I think this is something that every guy goes through. I'm not sure it's good, bad, right or wrong but it happens. I went through this from the time I was about 21 to 25 then got tired of it and wanted a relationship. I've been dedicated to my relationships for about the last 10 yrs without a single slip up. Get it out of your system but be CAREFUL and SAFE.
How important is it to a man to basically play the field and sleep with as many women as he wants?
It is something that should happen? A life phase? Or can it be bypassed with no regrets?
I have the ability too make this happen, but I am more of a emotional relationship invested person. I like to form a deep connection with those I sleep with.
The problem is I seem to find only temporary flings or one night stand type of deals.
I have developed a few deeps connections with lovers which is what I like the most but it is really hard to find that deep chemistry with someone. I am single right now.
So should I hold out in hoping to find a deep connection with someone? Or sow my wild oats or whatever.
My question basically boils down to will I regret not sowing those oats later in life? I am 29 now.
Tell me your experiences. Do you regret it?
Honestly I think this is something that every guy goes through. I'm not sure it's good, bad, right or wrong but it happens. I went through this from the time I was about 21 to 25 then got tired of it and wanted a relationship. I've been dedicated to my relationships for about the last 10 yrs without a single slip up. Get it out of your system but be CAREFUL and SAFE.
Honestly I think I am able to commit myself today because I already have this behind me and don't feel the need to do it again.
How important is it to a man to basically play the field and sleep with as many women as he wants?
It is something that should happen? A life phase? Or can it be bypassed with no regrets?
I have the ability too make this happen, but I am more of a emotional relationship invested person. I like to form a deep connection with those I sleep with.
The problem is I seem to find only temporary flings or one night stand type of deals.
I have developed a few deeps connections with lovers which is what I like the most but it is really hard to find that deep chemistry with someone. I am single right now.
So should I hold out in hoping to find a deep connection with someone? Or sow my wild oats or whatever.
My question basically boils down to will I regret not sowing those oats later in life? I am 29 now.
Tell me your experiences. Do you regret it?
Casual sex isn't right for everyone. Sounds as if this is true for you. If some of the farmers would just come out of the field and be courageously honest, they would tell you that the experience, while satisfying physically (depending on the man) leaves one with a cynicism and mistrust of women. This would be a serious obstacle in you finding your deep chemistry special someone. You're 29. If you have decided you want to be married one day, now would be a good time to start getting your ducks in a row (as in focusing on your career, finances, and becoming well rounded as a person) This prepares you to be a quality mate and increases your chances of attracting a quality mate.
I don't think a man needs to be out there acting like a garden implement, but I do not recommend settling down early before getting as much experiences as you reasonably can. Don't get married in your teens or early 20s.
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