Single people what do you miss? (Christian, married, male, singles)

[stan4]

Hm. I am not single, but when I was (and ok with it), I just missed having this person who was always involved in my life. Like...almost like what this one writer said about how your spouse is the only real witness to your life. It's kind of self-centered, but you are their witness, too.

[Ro2113]

How can I miss something I never had?

[RiippaKiwi]

Talking, joking around, hugging, looking into his eyes, seeing him around, doing things together

[greatblueheron]

Someone handy for house repairs.

That's it.

[bolillo_loco]

What I’ve missed about the olive skinned Italian women that I loved so dearly:

I missed:

1.Their smell
2. Soft skin
3. Stroking and gazing at their stick straight mane of shiny dark hair.
4. The way their eyes disappeared when they laughed at what I said.
5. The color contrasts of dark hair against their olive skin.
6. Just admiring their beauty and staring at their symmetry.
7. Having somebody to spend time with that shares common interests.
8. Somebody go to the movies with.
9. Children the relationship produced.
10. While I don’t spend every waking minute with them, it was always comforting to know that somebody was at home waiting for me to get done working and or there was somebody in the house besides me.
11. Somebody to keep me in check when my mouth sometimes got out of control.
12. Arm candy
13. Somebody to have intelligent conversation with at the drop of a hat.
14. That special feeling deep down inside because somebody out there cares about me romantically.
15. I’ve already said kids that the relationship produced, but I don’t think there are enough words to express this, so I felt the need to restate it.
16. Somebody to take care of, it gave me a sense of purpose, and on the other side of the coin, this was usually reciprocal.
17. Sex, yes of course. I could go out and pick up strange women, but I honestly need to feel comfortable with a woman before I can truly enjoy it. Moreover, I hate learning new tricks for women because it’s been my experience that they’re all a little different. Hence, I like familiar women because I know exactly what’s expected of me, what to do, and for how long it should last.
18. I felt defective at times because the women I’d grown accustomed to no longer wanted me.

This list goes on and on, but I do realize that there are also negatives. I feel that the positives negate all reasonable bad characteristics of a relationship.

For just over ten years, I suffered through being single. Now that I’m getting closer to fifty, I no longer miss women. When I look back, they’re just fond nostalgic memories. I don’t think a thousand words could describe the bitter painful empty feeling of loneliness I suffered through after my divorce. From my early thirties through my early forties, I felt as though I was in solitary confinement at a state run penitentiary. I’d never want to go through that again. It was worse than being a teenager!

That’s my rant, and I’m sticking to it.

[d-boy-80]

Originally Posted by wanderlust76

So you're choosing to be single...that's different. Being single for years and not wanting to be is horrible.

And what is stopping you from getting a gf/bf? You don't have to be inside with the computer all the time. You could be going outside looking or exercising so more of the opposite sex notices you.

[pvande55]

Originally Posted by Texas User

The girls are missing me.

Careful. Their aim might improve!

[Shankapotomus]

I don't need much. Just the silent but nearby presence of the gentler sex.

[SummerFall]

Originally Posted by RiippaKiwi

Talking, joking around, hugging, looking into his eyes, seeing him around, doing things together

^^^ Something like this

[Peacelilies]

Originally Posted by bolillo_loco

What I’ve missed about the olive skinned Italian women that I loved so dearly:

I missed:

1.Their smell
2. Soft skin
3. Stroking and gazing at their stick straight mane of shiny dark hair.
4. The way their eyes disappeared when they laughed at what I said.
5. The color contrasts of dark hair against their olive skin.
6. Just admiring their beauty and staring at their symmetry.
7. Having somebody to spend time with that shares common interests.
8. Somebody go to the movies with.
9. Children the relationship produced.
10. While I don’t spend every waking minute with them, it was always comforting to know that somebody was at home waiting for me to get done working and or there was somebody in the house besides me.
11. Somebody to keep me in check when my mouth sometimes got out of control.
12. Arm candy
13. Somebody to have intelligent conversation with at the drop of a hat.
14. That special feeling deep down inside because somebody out there cares about me romantically.
15. I’ve already said kids that the relationship produced, but I don’t think there are enough words to express this, so I felt the need to restate it.
16. Somebody to take care of, it gave me a sense of purpose, and on the other side of the coin, this was usually reciprocal.
17. Sex, yes of course. I could go out and pick up strange women, but I honestly need to feel comfortable with a woman before I can truly enjoy it. Moreover, I hate learning new tricks for women because it’s been my experience that they’re all a little different. Hence, I like familiar women because I know exactly what’s expected of me, what to do, and for how long it should last.
18. I felt defective at times because the women I’d grown accustomed to no longer wanted me.

This list goes on and on, but I do realize that there are also negatives. I feel that the positives negate all reasonable bad characteristics of a relationship.

For just over ten years, I suffered through being single. Now that I’m getting closer to fifty, I no longer miss women. When I look back, they’re just fond nostalgic memories. I don’t think a thousand words could describe the bitter painful empty feeling of loneliness I suffered through after my divorce. From my early thirties through my early forties, I felt as though I was in solitary confinement at a state run penitentiary. I’d never want to go through that again. It was worse than being a teenager!

That’s my rant, and I’m sticking to it.

Awwww, your list was so touching... I really feel for you