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Old 08-29-2011, 06:25 AM
 
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This is just a followup to a thread that I had posted....To make a long story short. I met this nice gentleman and we started seeing each other. I asked him whether he was seeing anyone and he told me "no".... BIG LIAR to say the least. Found out after a couple of dates that he was living with his girlfriend...Needless to say I was crushed....but feelings were all ready caught.....I know im dead wrong for doing this, but I invite him back to my place to get intimate because all signs point to it....He refuses to be intimate. Now the night it happened, i was crushed to say the least....but Im' kind of glad it did happen that way...Ever since that night we have decided just to remain friends....which Im cool with....but I still ponder why he refused to be intimate with me....Would I be within my rights if I asked him why he refused to be intimate?.....
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:39 AM
 
Location: Florida
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You can ask him anything you want to. Whether he will answer is another issue.

Why are you chasing him around? Why are you so obsessed with him?

Let it go, there are alot of unattached men that you can hop in bed with.
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:43 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Let me get this straight... First, you invited the liar to bed. Then, you want to be "friends" with the liar. Did I miss anything? What's wrong with you?
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:44 AM
 
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Believe, Im trying to move on.....but as you know sometimes it hard to move on....but eventually you do...Like I said, we agree to be just friends....I dont call or text him anymore. I only respond to him if he text which is once or twice a week and its simply to say hi! or catch up.
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:45 AM
 
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I am sure this will be a lifelong and mutually satisfying BFF-type relationship.

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Old 08-29-2011, 06:46 AM
 
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Let me get this straight... First, you invited the liar to bed. Then, you want to be "friends" with the liar. Did I miss anything? What's wrong with you?

I know....Dead Wrong.....and I know it too. Guess I just had a relapse....I dunno.
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:46 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Believe, Im trying to move on.....but as you know sometimes it hard to move on....but eventually you do...Like I said, we agree to be just friends....I dont call or text him anymore. I only respond to him if he text which is once or twice a week and its simply to say hi! or catch up.
Why the hell do you need such a "friend"? To prolong the misery? Besides, there isn't a whole lot here to "move on" from. You just forget about it; you don't keep a reminder around!
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:53 AM
 
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This is just a followup to a thread that I had posted....To make a long story short. I met this nice gentleman and we started seeing each other. I asked him whether he was seeing anyone and he told me "no".... BIG LIAR to say the least. Found out after a couple of dates that he was living with his girlfriend...Needless to say I was crushed....but feelings were all ready caught.....I know im dead wrong for doing this, but I invite him back to my place to get intimate because all signs point to it....He refuses to be intimate. Now the night it happened, i was crushed to say the least....but Im' kind of glad it did happen that way...Ever since that night we have decided just to remain friends....which Im cool with....but I still ponder why he refused to be intimate with me....Would I be within my rights if I asked him why he refused to be intimate?.....
My guess is he refused because he was living with his GF. I know it sounds crazy but I know of a lot of guys that will "go out" with other women while in a relationship and stop short of sex with them. Somehow in their screwed up mind it's not cheating unless their intimate.
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Old 08-29-2011, 06:53 AM
 
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Look will be the first to admit...Im kinda weak when it comes to these type of situations.... Thats why I posted on message board......Positive reinforcement goes along way.
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Old 08-29-2011, 07:00 AM
 
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Look will be the first to admit...Im kinda weak when it comes to these type of situations.... Thats why I posted on message board......Positive reinforcement goes along way.
Then get counseling instead of validation from strangers in a message board.
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