Seeing a man with a girlfriend (single, call, advice, straight)

[he's so hott]

Originally Posted by westcoastbabe

This is the same person....I have left him alone...Not condoning what I did...however it was a mutual attraction. Like i said by the time I found out about the gf, feelings were caught.

Ok. So you found out about the girlfriend AFTER he you built repoire and went out on date/started communicating via phone? At the end of the day I put more of the blame on him for being deceptive. However, attraction or not you should just fall back and forget about this loser.

[temptation001]

Originally Posted by westcoastbabe

However, he keeps texting just to see how I am doing....Dont want to be rude..but...it seems to me if they want to move on...they cut all ties....Am i not correct?

He feels like a douche for leading you on so far, and is a little worried you'll tell.

[westcoastbabe]

Long Story Short. Met this man/Started dating him/Asked if he was seeing someone, he said no/Found out he had a gf that he was living with after a couple of dates/Needless to say crushed./Luckily I was not intimate with this man, except for kisses here and there./Decided to just be friends and keep it cordial with him. Now that the dates stopped, he would occassionally text and say hi and make cordial conversation. Im fine with it....but here's the clincher.....I always try not to over extend my self by "overtexting"...so always would wait a couple of days before I would initiate a text.....So this past Thursday..I initiated a text to him becuase I had not heard from him in a week....I get back via text...." Real Busy" Text you when I am able.....Thats was Thursday...Today is Sunday... Guess Im a little perturbed because he was really adamant about remaining friends......While I understand people are busy...cmon now....LIke I said Today is Sunday. He's making it really hard to want to remain friends with him....Just puzzled...Whadaya think?

[Fashion Girl]

Why would you want to be friends with a guy who lied to your face and deceived you?

Forget this lying sack of potatoes and move on!

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by Fashion Girl

Why would you want to be friends with a guy who lied to your face and deceived you?

Forget this lying sack of potatoes and move on!

My thoughts exactly.

He didn't really want to be friends with you, he just figured if he was still in the picture you'd eventually just say "the heck with it" and indulge him in his affair.

Sounds like you want/need the friendship more than he does.

[kupkake]

What is in this for YOU? That's all I have to say...

[he's so hott]

Why would you want to be friends with a guy that lied about not having a girlfriend, therefore leading you on? In general, he probably got really busy and forgot to msg you back, which is understandable. But it seems to me that it means more to you have this 'friendship' with him than it does to him. You may want to examine that.

[the minx]

Maybe he was busy getting married.

[20yrsinBranson]

Originally Posted by westcoastbabe

Long Story Short. Met this man/Started dating him/Asked if he was seeing someone, he said no/Found out he had a gf that he was living with after a couple of dates/Needless to say crushed./Luckily I was not intimate with this man, except for kisses here and there./Decided to just be friends and keep it cordial with him. Now that the dates stopped, he would occassionally text and say hi and make cordial conversation. Im fine with it....but here's the clincher.....I always try not to over extend my self by "overtexting"...so always would wait a couple of days before I would initiate a text.....So this past Thursday..I initiated a text to him becuase I had not heard from him in a week....I get back via text...." Real Busy" Text you when I am able.....Thats was Thursday...Today is Sunday... Guess Im a little perturbed because he was really adamant about remaining friends......While I understand people are busy...cmon now....LIke I said Today is Sunday. He's making it really hard to want to remain friends with him....Just puzzled...Whadaya think?

Would you care this much if it were one of your female friends? No, of course not. You are wanting to maintain a "friendship" with this guy in the hopes that he and his girlfriend will eventually split up and go their separate ways. You are hoping that he will come to the realization that you are much better for him than she is. Face it, you like the guy and you want to have a relationship with him.

That's why this bothers you so much. Kudos to you for being decent enough to NOT fool around with him while he is still living with someone. But, just remember what he does WITH YOU, he will do TO YOU.

Find a nice boy.

20yrsinBranson

[Mikala43]

You are perturbed that a guy who lied to you about something major is not returning your texts in a timely manner?

You choose odd things to get mad at, and others not too.