What are the chances of a long distance relationship working when meeting online? (dating, marriage)
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I've know of only 2 long distance relationships where they met online that lasted. Both were willing and able to relocate and both were looking for marriage in the not to distant future. Both had one party move withing a few months of meeting and both got married.
But I'm thinking this is very rare. It's just 2 couples out of many many more couples who met locally.
As for me I wouldn't even entertain the idea. I wouldn't message someone from more than an hour away and especially not a plane ride away. I don't see the point to start an uphill battle, when there are so many choices locally. What do you think?
What are the chances of a long distance relationship?
About zero.
Even an actual LDR, that is one that takes an already existing and generally satisfying relationship, and stressing it by adding prolonged time and distance between the parties into that mix, has about a zero chance of surviving.
I met my husband online, I was living in Australia and he was living in the US. He moved to Australia to be with me then I moved to the US with him. Almost 7 years later we're still happy together. It certainly wasn't an easy path though. Moving countries is expensive and time consuming. We did it for love though.
What are the chances of a long distance relationship?
About zero.
Even an actual LDR, that is one that takes an already existing and generally satisfying relationship, and stressing it by adding prolonged time and distance between the parties, has about a zero chance of surviving.
I wouldn't say zero, but more like 0.1% . The ingredients needed to be successful are very highly matched couples, ready for something very serious and enough disposable time and money.
For the other 99.9% who attempt, I think it's the fantasy and excitement that draws them in, and then leads to a big fizzle. Just one date cost hundreds of dollars for one person and then the other has to entertain someone for days to make spending the money on travel worth it. Then back to nothing but calls for weeks.
I met my husband online, I was living in Australia and he was living in the US. He moved to Australia to be with me then I moved to the US with him. Almost 7 years later we're still happy together. It certainly wasn't an easy path though. Moving countries is expensive and time consuming. We did it for love though.
Yeah, that was one of my criteria for it to work. Lots of time and money. Most people are short on one or both.
I would not waste time on it, unless I found someone that seemed *SO* perfect and I simply could not resist and he moved to where I was. No way would I go to where he was. I have uprooted myself for love and lived to regret it on more than one occasion.
Success story, here. We're at five years together, one adopted dog, one purchased home, and counting.
My SO and I met online (a forum like this, not online dating, not that it makes much difference one way or another, except to help clarify that neither of us was really looking to meet somebody, it just worked out that way).
Initially, I was in Illinois, and he was in Texas. We were friendly, commented on each other's posts, etc. Then he disappeared from the forum for about six months; I didn't think much of it. When he resurfaced, he messaged me and let me know he'd been recruited by a company that was transferring him to the Midwest. He was going to be relocated to Kansas City, and wanted to know more about living in the interior of the country, since he was east coast raised the only other place he'd ever lived besides NY and Boston was Texas. We got to be more friendly as we talked more online, and started talking on the phone. When he moved to KC, that put us at about 500 miles apart, so we decided that it might be fun to meet up some time.
One day, he asked me if I'd be his date to his brother's wedding, which was taking place in Annapolis. I was impressed at his ballsiness, and I thought it sounded like an adventure and said sure. I felt that if we didn't get along as well face to face as we did online and over the phone, I had friends in Annapolis, and could easily excuse myself. So we met face to face for the first time in baggage claim at BWI. And we've been together ever since.
We did a few back n' forths between my hometown and where he was living. He got to meet my family, and I'd already met most of his at the wedding. About two months after that first meeting, he invited me to come live with him in KC, knowing I'd been looking to leave my job/field for some time, but hadn't found the right job. So I expanded my search to where he was, got a job, and moved. I moved in about four months after we first met face to face. No regrets, and it was a lot less complicated than other dating scenarios I'd been involved in with very local guys.
Success story, here. We're at five years together, one adopted dog, one purchased home, and counting.
My SO and I met online (a forum like this, not online dating, not that it makes much difference one way or another, except to help clarify that neither of us was really looking to meet somebody, it just worked out that way).
Initially, I was in Illinois, and he was in Texas. We were friendly, commented on each other's posts, etc. Then he disappeared from the forum for about six months; I didn't think much of it. When he resurfaced, he messaged me and let me know he'd been recruited by a company that was transferring him to the Midwest. He was going to be relocated to Kansas City, and wanted to know more about living in the interior of the country, since he was east coast raised the only other place he'd ever lived besides NY and Boston was Texas. We got to be more friendly as we talked more online, and started talking on the phone. When he moved to KC, that put us at about 500 miles apart, so we decided that it might be fun to meet up some time.
One day, he asked me if I'd be his date to his brother's wedding, which was taking place in Annapolis. I was impressed at his ballsiness, and I thought it sounded like an adventure and said sure. I felt that if we didn't get along as well face to face as we did online and over the phone, I had friends in Annapolis, and could easily excuse myself. So we met face to face for the first time in baggage claim at BWI. And we've been together ever since.
We did a few back n' forths between my hometown and where he was living. He got to meet my family, and I'd already met most of his at the wedding. About two months after that first meeting, he invited me to come live with him in KC, knowing I'd been looking to leave my job/field for some time, but hadn't found the right job. So I expanded my search to where he was, got a job, and moved. I moved in about four months after we first met face to face. No regrets, and it was a lot less complicated than other dating scenarios I'd been involved in with very local guys.
Well, that's a great story. A few convenient things happened, like him moving closer anyway, you we're into the idea of moving and you quickly found a job. In most cases, one would be uprooted just to be with someone else. That's a big risk. But you got both the relationship and the job and you move not that far away.
Well, that's a great story. A few convenient things happened, like him moving closer anyway, you we're into the idea of moving and you quickly found a job. In most cases, one would be uprooted just to be with someone else. That's a big risk. But you got both the relationship and the job and you move not that far away.
Things used to be different. These days most people wouldn't leave a stable job... God forbid if they're also stuck with a house.
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