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Old 08-29-2011, 06:01 AM
 
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Wonder why when either groups get together [two gay guys or two lesbians] that one seems to take on the opposite look and role If they weren't keen to the sex that they don't want to be, then why even bother trying to resemble it in looks or demeanor? When Ellen Degeneres hooked up with Anne Heche and then Portia de Rossi, the later two always looked more feminine and wore more feminine clothing than Ellen, who mostly wore jeans and plaid shirts. If they're supposed to be women who only want woman, you'd think that they'd BOTH want to look, sound and act more like a woman than a guy or even a tomboy, for that matter.
Wearing t-shirts and jeans is a far cry from being a man. Ellen is very much a woman.

 
Old 08-29-2011, 06:06 AM
 
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I daresay lesbians are as good or better than anyone at falling in love based on what's inside.
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I know more than a few straight women that are fed up with the way men think and act.
Pretty much sums it up right there, in my book. Seems obvious, in fact.
 
Old 08-29-2011, 06:10 AM
 
Location: EPWV
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Wearing t-shirts and jeans is a far cry from being a man. Ellen is very much a woman.
I didn't say she wasn't a woman. C'mon. I'm just saying tho it seems odd that they wouldn't want each other to be more like each other in all respects.

miu- Yeah, some men can be sex crazed, but there are alot out there that can be decent too. Same can be true that some women be like that as well.
 
Old 08-29-2011, 06:32 AM
 
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I didn't say she wasn't a woman. C'mon. I'm just saying tho it seems odd that they wouldn't want each other to be more like each other in all respects.

miu- Yeah, some men can be sex crazed, but there are alot out there that can be decent too. Same can be true that some women be like that as well.
In all respects why? Clearly, lesbians simply want other women. Style is just a personal preference. And that's what's being noted here rather than sexual orientation.
 
Old 08-29-2011, 06:43 AM
 
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One might also ask a straight man --yes some of you posters who don't seem to get it--why you would not be interested in having a relationship with a man with overtly femaile characteristics. A drag queen or so forth. After all, you are attracted to women, so why not to men who look and act like women?
 
Old 08-29-2011, 06:44 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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That's something that's always baffled me, too. I think deep down they still want a man physically, but with the emotional make-up of a woman.
 
Old 08-29-2011, 08:06 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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You're looking at gay people and gay relationships through heteronormative gender role BS. It's the same mindset that assumes there's a "male" and a "female" role in a gay relationship. There isn't. You look at a "butch" woman and assume she wants to look like a man or be a man, or that the woman she's with really wants to be with a man. That is not the perception of the women in the relationship.
 
Old 08-29-2011, 08:08 AM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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I know more than a few straight women that are fed up with the way men think and act. Especially the player types. Plus a feminine looking woman is not every person 's(male or female) ideal woman. So perhaps these butch women types are their answer to the perfect partner. Someone that looks masculine, is the stronger partner, who is sensitive and not sex-crazed and who doesn't act like a jerk.
Nice sexist post.
 
Old 08-29-2011, 08:13 AM
 
Location: New England
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I think you're missing the point. It's common among lesbians to take no interest in "femininity" as heterosexuals recognize that concept. So you say they "look like a man" but what you're really seeing is someone who's making no effort at all to "look like a woman" in the conventional way. Generally it's the hetero women who are working harder at their appearance! Imagine if they all stopped, society as we know it would collapse.

Here's a lesbian couple visiting Chicago. The woman on the right is the cartoonist and author Alison Bechdel:
IMG_0757 | Flickr - Photo Sharing! (http://www.flickr.com/photos/zizyphus/5813849148/ - broken link)
 
Old 08-29-2011, 08:15 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Here's a lesbian couple visiting Chicago. The woman on the right is the cartoonist and author Alison Bechdel:
IMG_0757 | Flickr - Photo Sharing! (http://www.flickr.com/photos/zizyphus/5813849148/ - broken link)
Just out of curiosity, have they always been lesbians or did they switch teams out of desperation?
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