So drinks at the bar/club=grind? (girls, love, single)

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by kupkake

Yes I am in my late 20s and holding on by a string to what's left of it!haha I don't EVEN want to see my dirty thirty anytime soon.

Age is just a number to me.

[Texas User]

Drinks at clubs/bars are rip-offs. Walmart has the same thing more then half that price.

[noexcuseforignorance]

Originally Posted by Texas User

I am guessing you are in your 20's right?

Probably just poor emotional intelligence. Assuming that age plays a lot into opinions is just agism.

[Slanderous]

I've never bought a drink for a girl I didn't already know. I've always felt like there was no need to bribe the girl so she'll talk/dance/whatever with me. Either she liked me or she didn't, and I doubted buying her a drink would have that much influence.

[kupkake]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Drinks at clubs/bars are rip-offs. Walmart has the same thing more then half that price.

Jeeze Texas you sound just like one of my friends..you're not going to take the money to your grave...your coffin won't be big enough. Now I'm not saying to splurge but you can spend a lil every now and then...lighten up a bit. I hope you don't act reluctant to pay for dates too.

[30STM]

Take control when a man buys you a drink. If he asks you to dance and becomes dominate because he bought you a drink just ignore him. If he continues to bother you at the club call security over.

[Doctor Blues]

Originally Posted by kupkake

Well you're a nice girl lol if he's ok I'll take the drink but I don't always want to dance with him. When I decline THEN the annoyance begins haa....just like men sleep with girls=no strings attached..women take drinks from men=no strings attached!

The annoyance begins because you cratered his ego. You take his drink, i.e. you USE him, then turn him down. What's not to like, eh?

Do yourself a favor and try to be sincere. Tell him: "no, you're not my type, I'd prefer not to accept your drink nor to talk with you in any regard, becasue if I did, you'd get the wrong idea."

Try it.

[Doctor Blues]

Originally Posted by noexcuseforignorance

Probably just poor emotional intelligence. Assuming that age plays a lot into opinions is just agism.

Sorry to break it to you, but age DOES have a lot to do with your opinions. When I was 15, I was both an atheist and politically left-leaning so hard people mistook me for a Communist.

Now, I am Libertarian-right and a firm believer in God.

You are deluding yourself in thinking your age has nothing to do with your opinions; that's like saying neither do your experiences matter in any of that.

[wordlife]

Don't buy her a drink as simple as that.

If your going to a club/bar and you have this mindset that if you pay for a drink your supposed to get something, then your delusional. You'd be better off putting that money towards a prostitute because that's really what your asking for with that type of exchange.

[miu]

I'd be willing to talk to a guy without him buying me a drink. And if I find his personality annoying, then I would politely walk away from him. I think though, that guys have to be willing to accept if a new girl they are chatting up at a bar or a club is just not that into him, and be able to gracefully accept if she doesn't want to spend a lot of time politely talking to him when there are other people to meet and check out. I think that they do hope that by buying a girl a drink, she will feel more obligated to spending time with him. And if he buys her several drinks, then his hopes are to get her drunk and take advantage of her poor judgment. But minimally, I think that as long as she is drinking that one bought drink, she ought to spend that time with him talking... unless he is a total jerk.

By the same token, guys don't like to waste their time with girls that aren't pretty enough by their standards. And most guys aren't motivated by decency when they are out looking for female company, especially out at a club or a bar. So I don't have much sympathy for them if they end up buying drinks for a woman or several of them and don't end up scoring that night.