What is wrong with me?/What do men want? (female's male-related issue)

[tegota]

I have a female neighbor, who is now in her seventies. She didn't have any children, but had a successful career, etc. Finally met someone at the age of 62. They were together for six years, when he passed.

Sometimes one needs to "let go" of their dreams in life. In order to be able to receive something new. Life is a beautiful gift, and we're all given a unique expression of potential and opportunities.

Noticing all of the cities you'd lived in and moved to. There are very few who've had those opportunities, much less the courage to pursue the possibilities on their own.

I'm not suggesting that you "give-up"; just "let go" see what your inner voice speaks as being more pertinent for right now.

[Prairieparson]

I thought I'd add something else after reading all the posts again. Men and women will tend to be attracted to a fun person, someone funny, someone with an upbeat positive, fun loving person. From your comments, it appears that you don't even have girl friends that you socialize with. If I was your life coach, this is the first thing I'd mention. You need to join some organizations or activities where you can get out and just have some fun, bowling, golf, exercise class at a health club, billiards, skiing, hiking, whatever.

[Raena77]

Some men just don't know what they want either. It's rough life. I'm 34 and still single and with a child. Many want a hot chick with a high paying job. They want someone stable which I don't blame them for that part.

Sometimes you need to come to a reality....life isn't always as we planned it or dreamed of. You must find the good that came out of it. You need to be strong and find joy in the happy times in the past and the future. Cheer up your not the only one who needs to fight to believe in hope.

[SVTRay]

Originally Posted by Amber1964

Moving to Cities
-I have livd in 6 different cities in my lifetime. These cities include New Orleans, Los Angeles, Atlanta, New York, Denver, and San Francisco. I wanted to move to cities where the dating scenes ar larger and had more variety in men. However, I was never asked out on a date and was always turned down.

Talking about looking for love in all the wrong places...seriously, San Fransisco? Is there even a straight single guy in San Fransisco?

Look, I don't what's going on but I would suggest saying to hell with guys and going to church...unless you're an atheist...if that is the case, go to church I guess what I'm saying is you're focusing on guys too much. Relax and they will eventually come to you. Try getting a hobby or going to church. If you got dog, go for walks in the park....dog park if you got one. If that don't work, buy a hotrod...next to Sex and Food, guys love Hotrods! You don't have to go into debt over a 200,000 67' Shelby Mustang GT either. You can pick up an early 2000's Camareo and Mustang for about 5,000-10,000...just make sure it's a V8 Then hit the streets on weekends or catch a flick.

Best of luck.

[JetJockey]

Originally Posted by SVTRay

Talking about looking for love in all the wrong places...seriously, San Fransisco? Is there even a straight single guy in San Fransisco?

Look, I don't what's going on but I would suggest saying to hell with guys and going to church...unless you're an atheist...if that is the case, go to church I guess what I'm saying is you're focusing on guys too much. Relax and they will eventually come to you. Try getting a hobby or going to church. If you got dog, go for walks in the park....dog park if you got one. If that don't work, buy a hotrod...next to Sex and Food, guys love Hotrods! You don't have to go into debt over a 200,000 67' Shelby Mustang GT either. You can pick up an early 2000's Camareo and Mustang for about 5,000-10,000...just make sure it's a V8 Then hit the streets on weekends or catch a flick.

Best of luck.

Actually, there are a lot of single, straight men in San Francisco.

As for hot rods, if guys were into girls who are into cars, I'd have men lined up around the corner . Instead, I have a TON of male friends who think of me as 'one of the guys' and date girls who can't stand that their cars don't have mp3 players and air conditioning

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Amber1964

I tried a life coach and wasn't too impressed.

Then find another and stick with it.

The bottom line is, when you want something badly enough you work you azz off to get it.

Now get busy

[20yrsinBranson]

Originally Posted by Amber1964

I need suggestions for attracting a potential man. I am still looking to get married and have children.

About me
I am 47 from Louisiana and have never been in a relationship. I have tried everything from moving to a several new cities, losing weight, countless dating sites, singles clubs/activities, dressing in designer clothes. I am educated and have an okay paying job. Nothing seems to be working for me. I just do not understand why men are not interested?

Moving to Cities
-I have livd in 6 different cities in my lifetime. These cities include New Orleans, Los Angeles, Atlanta, New York, Denver, and San Francisco. I wanted to move to cities where the dating scenes ar larger and had more variety in men. However, I was never asked out on a date and was always turned down.

Losing Weight
In my teens and up until I was around 38, I have always been fit and at a healthy weight and I have worked hard to keep the wight off of m. When I was younger, I was very obsessed about my weight, that isn't th case with me now. Despite being very fit and healthy no men seemed to be interested.

In the dating sites, I have never had much luck, if any. I am currently frequenting chatrooms and men there are never interested. Once I send my picture they either ignore me and/or block me. Going to clubs and other activites were very weird I consider myself to be very outgoing, friendly, and very talkative. I have multiple interests and hate just sitting in the house all day. But lately that is all I have been doing for the past 5 years. This has made me very very depressed. I have given out my number to several men yet I can count on one hand how many have called back and this time frame has been for years and years. I just cannot figure out what men want.

Can anyone offer advice or at least suggestions and answers on why men just don't click with me? Men, what do you find attractive in a woman? And woman what did you change about yourself that men found attractive? I just can't seem to get it? Seriously, I am on the verge of giving up on love altogether and have contemplated suicide. I go to counseling every week and that helps somewhat but I still feel depressed especially since all of my friends are married with multiple kids. I always thought that would be me, I would have been much happier if I was in there shoes.

Well, *something* is turning them off. Either it is your physical appearance or your personality. What do you look like? You don't mention it once in your post. I will assume that you are not the most beautiful woman in the world. Take heart, if this is true, it shouldn't matter because very often you can counteract an unattractive face with a great personality.

I have strong suspicions that there is more to this, whether you realize it or not. Perhaps the idea of the life coach might be a good one. That way an independent third party can assess the situation and best guide you. Have you discussed this with friends? What did they say?

20yrsinBranson