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I'm 24 (soon to be 25 in a few months) and I'm at that age where a lot of my friends are either getting engaged or already married. I don't even want to look at my texts or FB anymore because I know I'm going to see yet another engagement announcement. Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy for them and so glad they found the right person.
But that makes me feel so behind everyone else. I'm not that young anymore and not even close to where they are. I'm dating, but not anything serious. I feel like there's so much pressure to get married and get married now. It doesn't help my mom is now constantly reminding me on a daily basis that I'm just sitting around getting old.
I used too...When I was in college. I didn't feel pressured to get married. I just thought that I would be "left behind" in marriage. Now I'm focusing on finding a job that I lost track on dating and marriage. :S
I'm 24 (soon to be 25 in a few months) and I'm at that age where a lot of my friends are either getting engaged or already married. I don't even want to look at my texts or FB anymore because I know I'm going to see yet another engagement announcement. Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy for them and so glad they found the right person.
But that makes me feel so behind everyone else. I'm not that young anymore and not even close to where they are. I'm dating, but not anything serious. I feel like there's so much pressure to get married and get married now. It doesn't help my mom is now constantly reminding me on a daily basis that I'm just sitting around getting old.
Anyone else feel like this?
I'm 24, too, and I guess sometimes I do, but I have no interest in settling yet. We're still so young, why waste it worrying?
I'm 24 (soon to be 25 in a few months) and I'm at that age where a lot of my friends are either getting engaged or already married. I don't even want to look at my texts or FB anymore because I know I'm going to see yet another engagement announcement. Don't get me wrong, I'm so happy for them and so glad they found the right person.
But that makes me feel so behind everyone else. I'm not that young anymore and not even close to where they are. I'm dating, but not anything serious. I feel like there's so much pressure to get married and get married now. It doesn't help my mom is now constantly reminding me on a daily basis that I'm just sitting around getting old.
Anyone else feel like this?
Haha, you have no idea. I'm the oldest of the three and my younger siblings are now married. One has a kid. Even my friends through high school are engaged or married.
You're still young yet and have gobs of time. As am I. I'm 30 years old but it does seem like the door is slowly closing. Like I said though, you have a lot of time, you just need to decide what to do with it.
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Originally Posted by Black Jack22
Don't worry.
Soon most or all of your friends will be divorced withing 6 years.
I do agree that most of us put that pressure on ourselves. At the same time, when you see all your friends getting married or settling down in long-term relationships, it makes you feel like you are missing out on something.
Most of my younger cousins and siblings are married, or have kids, or are in long-term relationships. Though it's easy to think that you're missing out, you have to think, maybe it's them that are missing out on the fun. After all, a significant portion of folks who get married young end up divorced not too long after.
I say enjoy your 20s. The mentality of wanting what you don't have is overrated. Once you get your hands on it, you realize that maybe it wasn't all that it was chalked up to be. By all means, go out and date. Date as much as possible. It is after this experience that you will learn about what you like and dislike in your mate. This way, perhaps you can help bring down the divorce rate. Because by the time you're ready to marry, you will have figured out more about yourself that your peers who decided to settle right away.
Forget all this and enjoy being young and single. Do everything and go everywhere. You have years ahead of you to participate in the daily grind of work, house, SO, and kids. Don't waste what you have, longing for something else. It will all catch up to you, hopefully when you are a little older and smarter.
Start checking out all these people you know who are young, married, and having children. How many of them are still truly happy? How many of them still have fun lives and pretty much do what they please? Watch and learn.
Start checking out all these people you know who are young, married, and having children. How many of them are still truly happy? How many of them still have fun lives and pretty much do what they please? Watch and learn.
Great advice. A few years after my family, co-workers and friends got married, I seemed to be the only one who actually liked going home after a long day. And 3/4 of these people are now divorced/re-married/and again don't like going home.
Don't fret over it, the closer to 30 you'll get, the better choices you'll make, and the better your chances for a successful marriage.
Great advice. A few years after my family, co-workers and friends got married, I seemed to be the only one who actually liked going home after a long day. And 3/4 of these people are now divorced/re-married/and again don't like going home.
Don't fret over it, the closer to 30 you'll get, the better choices you'll make, and the better your chances for a successful marriage.
Here, here. I refuse to get married until my early 30s.
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