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Old 09-14-2011, 09:49 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Default Chemistry online v chemistry in real life

Have you ever meet someone who you had chemistry or a good connection with online? did it translate to chemistry in real life?

Just interested in a discussion on this subject.

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Old 09-14-2011, 10:03 AM
 
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All the men I communicated with online for any length of time because I thought there was chemistry never worked out in real life. I found myself to always be disappointed. It wasn't them so much, but that I had built them up to be something else in my mind.

The relationships that did work out were when we had limited online communication, meaning we didn't correspond for months, but maybe only exchanged a few emails and then decided to meet to see if there was a mutual attraction both physically and personality wise.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:09 AM
 
Location: The Triad (nc)
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The more time you spend interacting electronically...
before spending time together in person...
the less likely that the in-person experience will result in anything positive.

The flood of anecdotes about exceptions to this that follow not withstanding...
this will remain the fundamental truth of it.
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Solution? If (when?) you stumble across someone that appeals...
go meet them. Right away.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:20 AM
 
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The more time you spend interacting electronically...
before spending time together in person...
the less likely that the in-person experience will result in anything positive.

The flood of anecdotes about exceptions to this that follow not withstanding...
this will remain the fundamental truth of it.
---

Solution? If (when?) you stumble across someone that appeals...
go meet them. Right away.
I agree with this 100%.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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Sometimes yes, sometimes no. No matter how good the connection seems to be online, reality may or may not be remotely the same. Keep expectations low when meeting, no matter how awesome someone seems via online/phone communication. And it's possible to be pleasantly surprised by great chemistry when you do meet, when you had little or no expectation of such previously.

You simply cannot predict your real-life reaction to someone based on virtual communications!
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Waggy and I have a lot of fun online. We'd kill each other in real life.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:35 AM
 
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Waggy and I have a lot of fun online. We'd kill each other in real life.
But what a glorious death it would be!
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:52 AM
 
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Yes.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:57 AM
 
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Have you ever meet someone who you had chemistry or a good connection with online? did it translate to chemistry in real life?

Just interested in a discussion on this subject.
Yep. See my profile pic.
11 months ago I stumbled upon amazing chemistry with someone, without looking. I had "C-D friend requested" him, and the chemistry in real life not only matches online, but surpasses online tenfold. Greatest, most wonderful man I've ever met, and I've never been happier.
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Old 09-14-2011, 10:57 AM
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Not a story, about an online connection, but:

Connecting from Far Away - Meeting and there's No Chemistry?
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