Boyfriend is broke. End relationship? (dating, wives, girlfriend, women)

[bethebest]

He was making $60,000 a year at a factory when we started dating 2 years ago. He has 5 kids by 4 women. He was never broke and always made time for me and our relationship has been good so far. The company he worked for closed 4 months ago. He wanted to get back to work right away and has been putting in several applications. He finally got a job as a cook at Ihop. He is making $9.00 an hour now. His savings in gone because he has been paying his bills and child support. He doesn't get paid for two weeks. The job does not pay enough for him to pay all his bills and I have helped out by giving him $400 over the past 2 months to help with his bills. He is depressed because he is not making enough money and I'm tired of helping him with money. I love him but this is a hard situation. Would you break up over money?

[Gunner0325]

Originally Posted by bethebest

He has 5 kids by 4 women.

I would break up with him because he has 5 kids by 4 women

[cubssoxfan]

Originally Posted by Gunner0325

I would break up with him because he has 5 kids by 4 women

Amen, I would run fast and long if I found out a potential girlfriend had 5 kids by 4 different men!

[prairiestate]

And the answer would be different if you lived in Cleveland?

[sunnyandcloudydays]

Only advice I could even possibly give to you.
Dont come to The City Data Forum.

Seek a professional or a trusted friend and a family member on advice.

No one here is going to know you , him and the children.

Maybe he should consider getting snipped!

[tlm12283]

Ma'am, you have to think about what you are saying. You will never be happy if money is what you are measuring the value of your relationship upon. As you have become aware, money is fleeting and it is only good for security. The most valuable thing on earth that you can have is the love of another. How can you be loved or love another if you don't love yourself. If having 5 kids by 4 women was so bad to you so that it should become a weight in your scale of options then you are appearing to have sold your self worth for a price that has currently lost its value. For all your intents you made him actually seem to be quite the gentleman, someone willing to forego their own personal savings in a jobless recovery to care for their 5 children. My advice would be for you to regroup and do the best thing for him and let him find someone that actually values him and someone that he can value who values themself.

[rfr69]

Well since your out for money what do you have to bring to the table? I'm assuming maybe looks? When those go I hope you are dumped as your no longer worthy of your mate at that time.

Obviously the guy isn't a huge winner with the four kids by four different women or whatever it was but must be a decent guy if he gets up and goes to work everyday and pays child support and takes care of the kids.

Also alot of people are content sitting around collecting unemployment for three years. This guy got out there and got anothr job. Good for him. How dare you critisize him for working for $9 an hour at ihop. I give him props for getting out there and doing something and not waiting for obama to support him.

You should dump him, not for your own wellbeing but because he will be better off without you.

[20yrsinBranson]

Originally Posted by bethebest

He was making $60,000 a year at a factory when we started dating 2 years ago. He has 5 kids by 4 women. He was never broke and always made time for me and our relationship has been good so far. The company he worked for closed 4 months ago. He wanted to get back to work right away and has been putting in several applications. He finally got a job as a cook at Ihop. He is making $9.00 an hour now. His savings in gone because he has been paying his bills and child support. He doesn't get paid for two weeks. The job does not pay enough for him to pay all his bills and I have helped out by giving him $400 over the past 2 months to help with his bills. He is depressed because he is not making enough money and I'm tired of helping him with money. I love him but this is a hard situation. Would you break up over money?

The first thing he needs to do is go back to court and get his child support reduced. The child support he is paying is based upon his $60,000 income. His ex-wives (or whatevers) are not entitled to child support that he cannot afford to pay.

Secondly, he needs to seriously consider NOT HAVING ANY MORE CHILDREN that he cannot afford to pay for.

Finally, he needs to look for a second or third job. My understanding is that pizza delivery people are always in demand - especially if there is a college around. (I will assume there is a college or two in Chicago).

The question you have to ask yourself is whether or not you want to spend your life dealing with his drama, of which there is going to be an endless supply, or whether or not you might like to find a nice man who you can have a nice, DECENT life with.

20yrsinBranson

[gramirez2012]

Originally Posted by bethebest

He has 5 kids by 4 women.

This didn't immediately raise a big red flag for you?

Also, doesn't this belong in the Relationships forum?

[urza216]

What Chicago Suburbs do you guys live in?