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Just found the guy I'm dating on the sex offender site for sexual abuse 3rd degree which happened 10 years ago. How do I ask him about it??
What EXACTLY does this mean?
It would depend. If he was registered because he was charged with statutory rape when he was 18 dating his 15-16 year old gf, then I'd feel for him. With that said, being with someone that has a record like, something that will follow him around for the rest of his life (fault or not fault), might not be doable.
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I picked 'break it off w/ no explanation' but then this make more sense to find out first.
Also, he can tell you anything, who cares? I would go into looking it up for news stories containing his name to get the straight story. I bet every kiddie predator that is free tells the same example to women that Braunwyn gave. Can't trust anything they're telling you.
No matter the circumstances, if he told me only after he had become my actual "boyfriend" he'd be dropped like a hot potato. I've dated guys with legal issues (though never a sex offender) - they were each upfront about their situation from the very beginning of our contact.
Just found the guy I'm dating on the sex offender site for sexual abuse 3rd degree which happened 10 years ago. How do I ask him about it??
What EXACTLY does this mean?
First I would try to find out just what is considered 3rd degree sexual abuse in my area.
Perhaps call your local prosecutor's office and ask them....it's a place to start.
I would tell them why I wanted to know and I would also tell them the charge was 10 years old....definitions can change over the years.
I would want some factual knowledge before I asked him about it.....knowledge is power.
It could be something as benign as an 18 year old having sex with his 17 year old girl friend......or getting caught pissing behind a bush in the park.....who knows?
First I would try to find out just what is considered 3rd degree sexual abuse in my area.
Perhaps call your local prosecutor's office and ask them....it's a place to start.
I would tell them why I wanted to know and I would also tell them the charge was 10 years old....definitions can change over the years.
I would want some factual knowledge before I asked him about it.....knowledge is power.
It could be something as benign as an 18 year old having sex with his 17 year old girl friend......or getting caught pissing behind a bush in the park.....who knows?
Well, I'm hoping it's the age situation because he would have been 21 at the time.
Just found the guy I'm dating on the sex offender site for sexual abuse 3rd degree which happened 10 years ago. How do I ask him about it??
What EXACTLY does this mean?
Not sure if this is true for all states, but there should be a list of definitions of sex offenses on your state's Megan's Law website.
When I was looking at houses, I was using the website to look for registered sex offenders who lived near any home I was interested in buying. One day I was sitting at the computer with my boyfriend, looking through all the names in a specific zip code. I made the off-handed remark, "Wouldn't it be messed up if we knew someone on here?" No sooner does that come out of my mouth than he says "Wait a minute! I know that guy!", and points to a picture. I do a double-take and say, "Oh, s**t, I know him, too!" This was a guy who tried to date me when I was in high school, but he creeped me out, so I got away from him. I can't say I was all that surprised to see his face on that website. Dodged that bullet, I did.
My first thought was dump him ASAP. However there are simple things that could have happened which would not deserve the term "sex offender."
It's hard to even say what I would do I guess it would depend on the relationship.
It could be something as simple as being two or three years older than his girlfriend whom he had consensual sex with while she was considered underage. I'd find out the details (by getting the court transcript) first.
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