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Old 09-19-2011, 07:11 PM
 
Location: New York
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We are catholic and my best friend knew this guy for a long time and he just broke it off with his wife. They are in the process of getting a divorce now ans shes been dating him they been separated for a couple of months now. Shes ready to have sex with him but was concerned about religion and the church...is she sinning sleeping with him and hes legally married? I think she is and i attend church and study the bible when i can but i am not sure. Not sure, any catholics have an opnion?
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Old 09-19-2011, 07:22 PM
 
Location: Beautiful Pelham Parkway,The Bronx
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Yes,it's a sin for her to have sex with him because she is not married to him.

The Catholic church says it's a sin for anyone to have sex with anyone they are not married to ,except for priests.They can have sex with anyone regardless of the sex object's marital status or age.

He can continue to have sex with his wife until the divorce is final even if they are not speaking to each other but can not have sex with your friend.

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Old 09-19-2011, 07:22 PM
 
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If she is that Catholic that this concerns her, she should speak with her parish priest for advice. And also, if she is that Catholic, wouldn't she not believe in any relations with someone she is not herself married to?
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Old 09-19-2011, 08:31 PM
 
Location: Armsanta Sorad
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Yeah
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Old 09-19-2011, 08:49 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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We are catholic and my best friend knew this guy for a long time and he just broke it off with his wife. They are in the process of getting a divorce now ans shes been dating him they been separated for a couple of months now. Shes ready to have sex with him but was concerned about religion and the church...is she sinning sleeping with him and hes legally married? I think she is and i attend church and study the bible when i can but i am not sure. Not sure, any catholics have an opnion?
To Catholics it's adultery even if he is divorced. The marriage has to be annulled before he should date or have sex again in order not to be committing adultery according to the church. For the record, if she goes through with it she's a fornicator, just to be technical.

Religion aside, tell your friend to be smarter than this. A man coming out of a marriage and not even divorced is a bad bet statistically. It doesn't usually work out for the rebound woman/1st woman any guy is with right out of a marriage.
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Old 09-19-2011, 08:50 PM
 
Location: New York
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Thx, for responses..its just he didnt get married in church so she sees it diffeeent.
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Old 09-19-2011, 08:54 PM
 
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Thx, for responses..its just he didnt get married in church so she sees it diffeeent.
The truth can be so inconvenient
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Old 09-19-2011, 09:19 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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Thx, for responses..its just he didnt get married in church so she sees it diffeeent.
If she really wanted to know she would go to the pastor. So she is a good church going girl who is willing to sin if she decides it's ok? Loop holes! Not just in the tax code!
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Old 09-19-2011, 10:41 PM
 
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It's binary. He is either married or not married. There is no "sort of." And legally, separated is still married.
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Old 09-19-2011, 11:21 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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screw sin, if she wants to do it and he wants to do it... go for it. No point in having other people tell two fully grown adults what to do based on the fear of a bearded guy wearing a bathrobe throwing them into a fiery pit for eternity. Besides, God probably likes watching sometimes anyways.


(I am expecting to be smited by the Almighty Smiter any time now)
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