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Old 09-21-2011, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Default Too much, too fast!

Some people come on like "gangbusters" when they meet someone new...They feel an "instant click" and "fall in love!" Their new relationship consumes their whole life! And they "feel hurt" and get upset if the "object of their affection" doesn't drop everything and shower them with non-stop attention too!...I used to rush right into relationships when I was younger but I don't feel this way anymore. I get nervous if someone comes on "too strong" and "too fast" today. How do you feel about it? Thanks!
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Old 09-21-2011, 02:26 PM
 
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Too many quotation marks, too fast!
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Old 09-21-2011, 02:39 PM
 
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Well, my wife and I were exactly how the OP describes...we even got married right away...and still feel the same way almost 7 years later, even with the distraction of two tiny kids!

So, with the right person, it's great!
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Old 09-21-2011, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Too many quotation marks, too fast!
I know that I probably seem weird but I love to highlight certain words and phrases with quotation marks...It's just my style and my way of "being me!" I better see some quotation marks on my gravestone when I die! Otherwise it won't be reflection of who I've been in this life!
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Old 09-21-2011, 02:50 PM
 
Location: S.W.PA
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Could be overcompensating for an extended period of deprivation. In other words...desperation. OR maybe its real. 'Would make me a little edgy too. But I wouldn't throw in the towel right away, at least not without some discussion. People can lose perspective when they have been without something they really want for a while.
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Old 09-21-2011, 02:52 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Well, my wife and I were exactly how the OP describes...we even got married right away...and still feel the same way almost 7 years later, even with the distraction of two tiny kids!

So, with the right person, it's great!
Congratulations to you and your wife! I'm glad you found each other and have been so happy together...Good that your love for each other was mutual. it's different when one person feels "instant love" and the other person would rather take things slower. It's no fun to feel "rushed" or "pushed!"
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Old 09-21-2011, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Well, my wife and I were exactly how the OP describes...we even got married right away...and still feel the same way almost 7 years later, even with the distraction of two tiny kids!

So, with the right person, it's great!
Good or not, successful or not, I've always been this way, will continue to be so, and Iím only interested in men on the same wavelength! Cold fish need not apply! Oh, yeah, and I don't care how "wrong" some may think it is!

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I know that I probably seem weird but I love to highlight certain words and phrases with quotation marks...It's just my style and my way of "being me!" I better see some quotation marks on my gravestone when I die! Otherwise it won't be reflection of who I've been in this life!
I hope you don't do it while talking, though. It gets annoying when overused.
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:01 PM
 
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Some people come on like "gangbusters" when they meet someone new...They feel an "instant click" and "fall in love!" Their new relationship consumes their whole life! And they "feel hurt" and get upset if the "object of their affection" doesn't drop everything and shower them with non-stop attention too!...I used to rush right into relationships when I was younger but I don't feel this way anymore. I get nervous if someone comes on "too strong" and "too fast" today. How do you feel about it? Thanks!
Ahh yes the jaded and thrice shy old folks
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Ahh yes the jaded and thrice shy old folks
Some are like that even under 20! In fact, many of the youngsters here sound older than I am! It all comes down to having different personalities.

I may have not been very successful on long-term basis and I may be alone now (and very well could be alone from now on), but at least I've lived some. Others will die without having lived at all...
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Old 09-21-2011, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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Some people come on like "gangbusters" when they meet someone new...They feel an "instant click" and "fall in love!" Their new relationship consumes their whole life! And they "feel hurt" and get upset if the "object of their affection" doesn't drop everything and shower them with non-stop attention too!...I used to rush right into relationships when I was younger but I don't feel this way anymore. I get nervous if someone comes on "too strong" and "too fast" today. How do you feel about it? Thanks!
It could be yet another symptom of the fast living that's so prevalent in this country these days - instant gratification, 24/7 communications, 600-HP Cadillacs ...

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I may have not been very successful on long-term basis and I may be alone now (and very well could be alone from now on), but at least I've lived some. Others will die without having lived at all...
Quoted for truth.
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