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Old 09-21-2011, 10:38 PM
 
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so i have a pretty healthy self image and find that i am a pretty attractive girl. however, i have been plagued with acne for the past 13 years. it was all over my face in my teens and now in my twenties my face has calmed down some but i now have pretty bad acne on my chest and back and body. i didn;t care so much about it but now that i am dating i am realizing i am scared of undressing in front of the guy. he has never seen me sans clothes yet and i am terrified of what he will think when he sees the pimples on my chest and back and the scars acne has caused all over my body.

for those who have acne how do you deal with it in romantic relationships? for those who don't- what do you think of your partners /prospective partners who have it?

i am so embarrassed and have no idea how to prepare him for the pimples and scars on my body.
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Old 09-21-2011, 11:08 PM
 
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I understand your fear but if he cares for you in a geniune way and respects you ; he wouldnt care . For real girl.

Last edited by Sarahpc122927; 09-21-2011 at 11:41 PM.. Reason: It would make sense
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Old 09-21-2011, 11:10 PM
 
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I say the same as Sarahpc. If a guy is grossed out by your acne, then he isn't worth dating to begin with, and is a superficial guy. You're better off not giving those guys even the time of day
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Old 09-21-2011, 11:34 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Don't worry about it, I've been with women with stretch marks and other imperfections. Its really not a big deal and not a deal breaker. Everyone has imperfections, beit physically or mentally. Its only a big deal to most people if you make it one yourself.
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Old 09-22-2011, 01:37 AM
 
Location: SWUS
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Don't worry about it.

You've posted pictures of yourself, you are a beatiful young woman who just needs that extra little push, and just a little boost to your self-confidence maybe. Go out there and have a good time

Also... if you're ever in New Mexico, gimme a call
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Old 09-22-2011, 02:18 AM
 
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Maria,

You should take birth control Ortho Tricyclen (the brand not generic)...my sister had very bad acne and she took that as per reviews online and it has cleared them all up however you have to get them prescribed by a gynaecologist and take them every month but it worked wonders for her. Goodluck!
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Old 09-22-2011, 05:03 AM
 
Location: tampa bay
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Acutane is a CURE for acne in 80% of the cases...It has serious side effects one of them being severe birth defects if you become pregnant during the 6 month treatment plan. My daughter and my husband both used Acutane and their skin is clear...my daughter also was able to avoid scars because we sought treatment early on.I would talk to your doctor about the risk/benefits!!Good luck!!
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Old 09-22-2011, 06:25 AM
 
Location: New Albany, IN
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I agree with the posters who said that nobody's perfect and that a good guy wouldn't make fun of you or act disgusted about your acne. I have acne too but mostly on my face, and my husband always tells me to shut up when I'm overreacting about it! He doesn't try to avoid me or make comments when it gets really bad. He gets acne as well but not nearly as bad as I do, plus he's not nearly as pale as I am so it's not so visible. Even if it were more visible I wouldn't make a big deal. Anyway, if you didn't have pimples surely you would be worried about some other imperfection--we are women after all and women do that! But that just says overall everyone has something "wrong" with them, like scars, stretch marks, celulite, nose hairs, big goofy ears, crooked teeth, etc. ad infinitum.
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Old 09-22-2011, 06:56 AM
 
Location: US
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They make things to clear that up. Use them. I hate it on others and I hate it when I break out. They make products to fade scars too. Boyfriend acted like it was no big deal but he had acne in his teens and I think he was just being nice. Have you tried to clear it up with anything?
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Old 09-22-2011, 07:04 AM
 
Location: Houston
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Seriously, he's not going to give a ****.

Just get naked and in bed already
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