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Old 09-26-2011, 12:03 PM
 
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Why? because if you don't you will be jacking off to midget porn instead.
Judging by many of the responses on this thread this is sounding more appealing. Too many inconsiderate people.

 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:05 PM
 
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What is this, 1854? Seriously. Its a backwater/really old school way of thinking to think that a woman who approaches a guy is easy, a hoe, has low self worth. What, if a woman isn't wearing a girdle and bustier she is loose? It seems like we haven't progressed much if a woman that approaches a man is loose.
A few bad apples spoil it for the rest of us. What's funny is these guys' negative opinions on approaching get remembered and the rest of us saying "approaching is great" is forgotten. Ah, cest la vie!
 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:06 PM
 
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A few bad apples spoil it for the rest of us. What's funny is these guys' negative opinions on approaching get remembered and the rest of us saying "approaching is great" is forgotten. Ah, cest la vie!
Yeah after all every guy's the same.
 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:11 PM
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Location: Houston, Tx
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I saw my 18 yr. old nephew this weekend. He and his peers were hooking up later for a party, so I asked him about how the "dating" interaction between the genders went these days. Specifically, if the girls initiated contact and persued a relationship and how he felt about a girl if she did. He said "no, guys do it, sometimes girls will, but they are the hos. I wouldnt touch them with " then he pointed at my bf and said "his dick".

Just wanted to share this.

I couldn't imagine saying words like Ho's and dick in front of any of my aunts, sounds like he has respect issue in general.
 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:27 PM
 
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Yeah after all every guy's the same.
I think of this every time I see these "why do men" and "why do women" threads. As if there is a one size fits all answer for most of them.

Yes, there are gender-based trends, but even those are unreliable sometimes when dealing with individuals.
 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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What is this, 1854? Seriously. Its a backwater/really old school way of thinking to think that a woman who approaches a guy is easy, a hoe, has low self worth. What, if a woman isn't wearing a girdle and bustier she is loose? It seems like we haven't progressed much if a woman that approaches a man is loose.
More like 1974. I agree that it is outdated thinking. It was back in 1974, but thats the way it was for many. And apparently still is for some.

So the consensus seem to be that the majority of women are still not approaching men for romantic interests. Correct me if Im wrong but that is what the majority of guys and gals are saying.

The outdated and lingering assumption from the older generation (not 1854 btw), right or wrong, is one opinion of why.

There are some whose opionion is that it is just the way it is and both genders like it that way.

Then there is the opinion by other posters that all women are entitled, evil b's that get some twisted satisfaction from toying with men that they will never find good enough because cause they are a 10, dont have a million dollars or drive an expensive car.
 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:44 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Hi ladies,

I read everything, yet my question was based on this portion:



It seemed like a case of taking his opinion to clarify her assumption, when he could simply be in the minority. I'd hate to see women steer away from approaching because of opinions like the nephews'. It's all in the way a woman approaches, not the simple fact of doing so. If she doesn't approach in a sexual way, I don't see how one jumps to the conclusion that she's a ho.

Thanks to both of you for clarifying your position on that.
It was never my asumption. My opinion was that back in my day, yes, it was unaceptable for women to be forward in this fasion and the ones that were, were labeled. I was just relaying what my nephew said. I had no idea what went on in the 18-20's dating world. I was actually surprised.
 
Old 09-26-2011, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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I couldn't imagine saying words like Ho's and dick in front of any of my aunts, sounds like he has respect issue in general.
Neither could I. It may be true that he has a respect issue, IMO all 18 yr. old do, but we have a laid back relationship. He is an adult (legally) I am an adult. So much so that apparently Im older than dirt.
 
Old 09-26-2011, 02:21 PM
 
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By picking up on women's cues...holding a gaze (aka 3 second eye contact), soft and inviting smile, the hair toss, the playful giggle....

What is going on with men today? Didn't you guys learn this stuff in junior high? I mean, how did you know to ask Jenny to the homecoming dance and Suzie to the prom?
The power of the spoken word can be vastly clearer than any expressed female non-verbal cue -- body language certainly does not come naturally to all of us guys, and for those where this is the case, body language is a definite hit-or-miss (and usually a miss, b/c we tend to misinterpret ).

Just for example: if a guy is blind visually, realistically he is gonna need words, *not* visual cues which he can't even "see" or make sense of, to be able to gauge potential female interest. That is the analogy in a nutshell for us guys who are routinely "blinded" and burned, by body language ...ladies, if you like a guy, please be gentle, and express it to him through words, so he won't be as likely to misunderstand Doesn't necessarily have to be expressed super-directly or as something that might be otherwise attributed as more juvenile, either, as some posters have insinuated C'mon ladies, science has generally recognized the female gender as being more savvy and gifted wth words and language constructs in general -- so why not use that language gift, and help us guys out here a lil? You know we love you...we just can't always read you though, is all
 
Old 09-26-2011, 02:33 PM
 
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So what if the guy got the wrong idea? As long as he knows when and how to back off gracefully, he should at least attempt to learn body language by making some mistakes.
Tried repeatedly to "learn" body language...and failed, miserably each time (always misinterpreted it, pretty much 99.999% of the time) To this day, I am still almost totally abysmal at it, despite having tried, even to the point of reading multiple self-help books on it and similar efforts...it just doesn't come naturally, to me...

I wonder if those of us who aren't necessarily "visually-gifted" people, have a distinct disadvantage in this area?
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