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What about cleanliness?
I want a man who can demonstrate through his actions that he cares enough about himself to also care about his environment. No woman wants a man who will be a ton of work...ie, needs to be cleaned up after.
If there is no place for me to sit because of the dog hair and clutter, and he was expecting my company, it always makes me wonder, "Does he even want me here?"
If I can't go barefoot in his house because the bottom of my feet will turn black, WTF. And I don't want to see the bottom of his feet all black either!
I want a clean seat to sit on in the car. There is nothing worse than spending two hours getting cleaned up and ready for a date, and then the guy has a filthy vehicle! I LOVE dogs, but I don't want to get dirty because dog hair is all over the seat, especially if I've just spent two hours getting cleaned up for the guy.
And if things that are broken are never fixed....And if new things that are "installed" (like a flat-screen)....with the boxes and cords are everywhere and the installation is visibly so bad it is ugly....and the tools never put away but left out indefinitely.........This is not attractive.
If a guy cannot care for his own space, I wonder about his most primal ability to give me that relationship level of care and softness and sensitivity to my needs that all women love. Will he have it in him to even care that I care about my environment? Or will the fact that I care about my environment become one of those things that he will eventually hate about me?
I'm in my 60's and the guys are truly clueless slobs. They think they are awesome because they can ride a bike 40 miles a few times a week, and they are so attractive and in shape that they can get any woman. Quite frankly, I'd prefer they take one of those 40 mile bike rides and de-clutter the sink area so I can wash my hands if I want to.
Ironically, the worst offenders seem to be the ones who have the highest expectations about the way that I look! The'll spend hours exercising...even to an unhealthy extreme; but then when I try to find a place to sit down, everywhere will get me dirty if I sit there. So they expect me to be fit, and they expect me to look nice, but I can't maintain the level they want because their environment gets me messed up and dirty.
These men have enough money to spend on sailboats (big sailboats!!), and the rent of the slip for the boat, and restaurants, and very nice guitars, and exercise equipment that has to be watched out for because it becomes the newest in their collection of trip hazards in the home.
But their houses (which are paid for) are a disaster.
I asked one if it would be easier to get a cleaning service. He said the cleaning service didn't do a good job.
WTF. At least the toilet got cleaned and I could go to the bathroom!
I see that we have two different definitions for spiritual. I know the man I just described has nothing to do self-promotion. I've dealt with those kind of men and do not want to be in a relationship with them whatsoever.
I've encounter a few in my time as well. I've always wanted a man with integrity, God-fearing, family oriented...who can tackle life with a such a passion. I married one who is passionately stubborn in his ways...other than that, I believe my wish was granted.
He reminds me of the saying, "be careful with what you wish for, you may just get it."
This might sound worn out and cliche. I want a sensitive man. A man who has heart. Besides that, he has to be brave and not let other men push him around.
He has to be clean and sober. Know prudence. And it would help, though not a requirement, if he was very sexual, but only with me.
This might sound worn out and cliche. I want a sensitive man. A man who has heart. Besides that, he has to be brave and not let other men push him around.
He has to be clean and sober. Know prudence. And it would help, though not a requirement, if he was very sexual, but only with me.
He can't be trash, in any way.
Worn out or not...it's still basically what women want.
I've encounter a few in my time as well. I've always wanted a man with integrity, God-fearing, family oriented...who can tackle life with a such a passion. I married one who is passionately stubborn in his ways...other than that, I believe my wish was granted.
He reminds me of the saying, "be careful with what you wish for, you may just get it."
Ha ha. I can't wait to see him (future spouse)! - Kind of.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Chemistry. I was once attracted to a man who looked just like Colin Hay, but not when I first met him. It was after getting to know him, working with him. He was a wonderful man. But he was just a good friend because he was wonderfully dedicatedly married. Another thing I loved about him. Family was everything to him. If he had been single I'd have dated him in a heartbeat.
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I've always wanted a man with integrity, God-fearing, family oriented...who can tackle life with a such a passion. I married one who is passionately stubborn in his ways...other than that, I believe my wish was granted.
