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Hey, wait a minute! She said ask him out to coffee, she didn't say get him into bed. Do you think a person should have to turn down coffee just because he is married? There is nothing wrong with having a cup of coffee with someone of the different gender than you...
True however if my boyfriend or husband went with a hot chick to get a cup of coffee, I think I would be a bit sad, jeolous....but most likely allow it. That is if it's a coworker or close friend. It is also how much I trust him.
Was there a situation where you said no. Why? She seemed too eager / desperate? What were your experiences?
I thinking about asking this guy for coffee but it might seem to eager. What do ya;ll think???
Yes, I have said no a few times. My reason in all cases: I barely knew her and "sensed" it would be considered a date by her and I was not interested in that or her for what-ever reason at that particular point in time.
True however if my boyfriend or husband went with a hot chick to get a cup of coffee, I think I would be a bit sad, jealous....but most likely allow it. That is if it's a coworker or close friend. It is also how much I trust him.
How much you trust him? Sorry, but if you would be specious of his intentions by simply going out to coffee, then you do not trust him at all....and should not be in a relationship with him.
And what do you mean by "allow it"? Are you SWMBO? But I guess it is okay if you think the chick is ugly, huh?
I would go for it... all he can say is no.. for whatever reason I've never asked a man out. probably because of me being older and always told that the man likes to be in charge (or so I had always been told). I wouldn't hesitate to ask someone out if I ran into someone that I was interested in... just haven't in a long time... also remodeling my home pretty much alone so can't expect to meet someone painting my walls can I??
How much you trust him? Sorry, but if you would be specious of his intentions by simply going out to coffee, then you do not trust him at all....and should not be in a relationship with him.
And what do you mean by "allow it"? Are you SWMBO? But I guess it is okay if you think the chick is ugly, huh?
Wow harsh! I am single and yeah I hope I can trust my guy in the future. But remember that when your Gf or wife is with some hot stockbroker or Computer Installer for big corporations and he flirts with her that she doesn't go astray.
how much you trust him? Sorry, but if you would be specious of his intentions by simply going out to coffee, then you do not trust him at all....and should not be in a relationship with him.
And what do you mean by "allow it"? Are you swmbo? But i guess it is okay if you think the chick is ugly, huh?
Guys....if a girl asked you out for a coffee/drinks. Would you consider
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True however if my boyfriend or husband went with a hot chick to get a cup of coffee, I think I would be a bit sad, jeolous....but most likely allow it. That is if it's a coworker or close friend. It is also how much I trust him.
You would allow it? Do you think for a minute that if I'm going to have coffee with a friend, male or female, I'm going to ask my wife's permission? I wouldn't even consider it, she doesn't own me. And if you think you own your boyfriend and can allow him to have a drink with another person, then you are going to have troubles. There is no place in a relationship for jealousy. That is one of the things that gets a woman dumped quickly, or keeps her from being able to develop a relationship in the first place. And maybe I'm harsh, jealousy is one of my hot buttons. Women sometimes wonder why they are still by themselves, this is one of the reasons, they try to control how their man thinks and acts.
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Was there a situation where you said no. Why? She seemed too eager / desperate? What were your experiences?
I thinking about asking this guy for coffee but it might seem to eager. What do ya;ll think???
I started to read the responses, then stopped.
There are men with whom you don't stand a chance to get to the "playing field", much less first base, if you don't ask. Too eager? Or a definite signal that you could be receptive. There are a number of men that have been over-rejected, or tired of the "mystery games" women play. They'll look at you and admire you, but will not say one word or make any approach. You might find that the interest is mutual, but you will never know if you don't investigate.
I know this because I'm one of those men. After two relationships that have been far less than satisfying, I'm not against a relationship, but it won't be any worse for me to spend the rest of my life without anyone. Then, too... If you use alcohol or drugs, don't bother. I've been that route too.
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Guys....if a girl asked you out for a coffee/drinks. Would you consider
