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Old 10-03-2011, 11:50 AM
 
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Hello, I have recently started dating a married man about a month and a half now. He was the one who made the first move, we had been texting off and on for the last 5 years, and then he finally had me come meet him. Mind you we have not had sex yet, but we are very passionate when we are together, very sensual and caring. He has stayed the night a handful of times now, and we talk on the phone almost daily as well as text, he is touchy lovey to me in public (we live in a small town) He originally said they were getting divorced, now she dont want to leave for financial reasons. so this leaves me where? He tells me everyday that i am amazing ....should i just be open and tell him my feelings and go from there?
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Old 10-03-2011, 11:53 AM
 
Location: Palm Beach County
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Hello, I have recently started dating a married man about a month and a half now. He was the one who made the first move, we had been texting off and on for the last 5 years, and then he finally had me come meet him. Mind you we have not had sex yet, but we are very passionate when we are together, very sensual and caring. He has stayed the night a handful of times now, and we talk on the phone almost daily as well as text, he is touchy lovey to me in public (we live in a small town) He originally said they were getting divorced, now she dont want to leave for financial reasons. so this leaves me where? He tells me everyday that i am amazing ....should i just be open and tell him my feelings and go from there?

When he made the 1st move; you should have not encouraged the behavior and ceased all communication, etc....!!! This is NOT acceptable regardless if he is contemplating a divorce or not.

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Old 10-03-2011, 11:55 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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Hello, I have recently started dating a married man about a month and a half now. He was the one who made the first move, we had been texting off and on for the last 5 years, and then he finally had me come meet him. Mind you we have not had sex yet, but we are very passionate when we are together, very sensual and caring. He has stayed the night a handful of times now, and we talk on the phone almost daily as well as text, he is touchy lovey to me in public (we live in a small town) He originally said they were getting divorced, now she dont want to leave for financial reasons. so this leaves me where? He tells me everyday that i am amazing ....should i just be open and tell him my feelings and go from there?
So why doesn't he leave? If he really wants to be with you it wouldn't matter that she wants to stay for financial reasons. This is a no win for you IMHO. I would move on to someone who is available.
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Old 10-03-2011, 11:55 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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You could have had a long engagement, wedding, and a couple of kids by now. I don't know whose situation is sadder, yours or the wife's. If he was going to leave, he would have done so long ago. Wake up.
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Old 10-03-2011, 11:56 AM
 
Location: Earth
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Just remember, if he did it to his wife, he'll do it to you.
Been there - you'll lose. Get out while you can.

Why would you want to be involved with someone so dishonest?
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Old 10-03-2011, 12:05 PM
 
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This thread should be closed...relationship forums are about getting help with relationships/love/etc etc..
not breaking relationships and families.
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Old 10-03-2011, 12:08 PM
 
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This thread should be closed...relationship forums are about getting help with relationships/love/etc etc..
not breaking relationships and families.
Disagree. An affair, sad as it may be, is a relationship.
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Old 10-03-2011, 12:08 PM
 
Location: USA
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Hello, I have recently started dating a married man about a month and a half now. He was the one who made the first move, we had been texting off and on for the last 5 years, and then he finally had me come meet him. Mind you we have not had sex yet, but we are very passionate when we are together, very sensual and caring. He has stayed the night a handful of times now, and we talk on the phone almost daily as well as text, he is touchy lovey to me in public (we live in a small town) He originally said they were getting divorced, now she dont want to leave for financial reasons. so this leaves me where? He tells me everyday that i am amazing ....should i just be open and tell him my feelings and go from there?
I would say run, leave, get out of Dodge but it would probably have no affect on what you will do. I have known both men and woman in various degrees of this type of situation. Doesn't really matter what any one here says, it will talke the path that it is intended to take, good, bad or indifferent.

My best friend was in a similar situation: He had a petty, mean, but beautiful wife and ended up meeting up with someone who actually looked pretty frumpy but was incredibly nice. Long story short, he ended up leaving the wife for the girlfriend. Will it last? Probably not since he has proven to be good only for 5 year relationships anyway.
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Old 10-03-2011, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Way up high
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This isn't going to end well...
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Old 10-03-2011, 12:24 PM
 
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Shame on you, for contributing to the destruction of a family. And how sad and disgusting is it that you feel no compunction whatsoever about posting here, in the guise of the victim in this situation?! The wife and kids are the victims, and you're the co-perpetrator.

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