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Old 10-06-2011, 02:44 PM
 
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im 4 weeks pregnant and my husband is in the army, recently in august he got counseled for a rumored affair with a single soldier. But shes still been contacting him everyday, still trying to hold a relationship with him knowing that he's a married man, with hopes that he will leave me. Ive already spoke with his 1st sergeant in september about her still calling my husband and having an affair with him still. ans now september 27 i found out i was 3weeks pregnant, i put it on my fb, and she had her friends friend request me, and now she's saying she's pregnant 10 weeks pregnant n she just found out on the 25th, My husband started ignoring her advances she wanted to have sex with him and she pulled the why are you ignoring me im pregnant card. What should i do, what should he do, he say's he told her if she really is then she needs to get an abortion or the both of them could get into really big trouble. Ive done nothing but love my husband and he says the only way he sees it so that he wont get into trouble is to divorce me while im pregnant.
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Old 10-06-2011, 02:51 PM
 
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Also, I'm not in the military, but I don't see how divorcing you would keep him out of trouble for knocking up that other broad. It's not like his superiors don't already know he was married when it happened. Could be that he just wants a divorce and that is his excuse. I might take him up on it because the guy sounds like a loser and you sound like a great person who deserves better. Couldn't he have at least wrapped it up when banging his side action?
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Old 10-06-2011, 02:54 PM
 
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. Ive done nothing but love my husband and he says the only way he sees it so that he wont get into trouble is to divorce me while im pregnant.
He sounds like a real piece of work.
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Old 10-06-2011, 03:12 PM
 
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First of all I'm sorry to hear this even happaned. I would say get out of the marriage while you can. Once a cheater always a cheater.
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Old 10-06-2011, 03:35 PM
 
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Until the baby is born and a DNA test is taken then there is nothing to be done. I am sorry for you for all of the pain and the stress.
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Old 10-06-2011, 04:04 PM
 
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im 4 weeks pregnant and my husband is in the army, recently in august he got counseled for a rumored affair with a single soldier. But shes still been contacting him everyday, still trying to hold a relationship with him knowing that he's a married man, with hopes that he will leave me. Ive already spoke with his 1st sergeant in september about her still calling my husband and having an affair with him still. ans now september 27 i found out i was 3weeks pregnant, i put it on my fb, and she had her friends friend request me, and now she's saying she's pregnant 10 weeks pregnant n she just found out on the 25th, My husband started ignoring her advances she wanted to have sex with him and she pulled the why are you ignoring me im pregnant card. What should i do, what should he do, he say's he told her if she really is then she needs to get an abortion or the both of them could get into really big trouble. Ive done nothing but love my husband and he says the only way he sees it so that he wont get into trouble is to divorce me while im pregnant.

Any guy who would divorce his wife, especially when she is pregnant, just so he won't get in trouble with the military is not a real man, and no one you should waste one tear crying over.

Surely the military has counseling services and legal services for its families? I'd get some professional guidance asap.

Sorry this has happened to you honey and best of luck.
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Old 10-06-2011, 04:13 PM
 
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Three weeks pregnant? Come on now. Pregnancy dating starts from the first day of the last period, e.g. 2 weeks before ovulation. So 3 weeks is just one week post fertilization, and likely the egg has not implanted yet. There is no missed period and no symptoms. Few tests can pick up HCG levels that quickly.

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Old 10-06-2011, 04:16 PM
 
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Three weeks pregnant? Come on now. Pregnancy dating starts from the first day of the last period, e.g. 2 weeks before ovulation. So 3 weeks is just one week post fertilization, and likely the egg has not implanted yet. There is no missed period and no symptoms. Few tests can pick up HCG levels that quickly.

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Not necessarily. If you know the day you got pregnant on you can definitely figure out if you are 3 weeks pregnant.

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Old 10-06-2011, 04:30 PM
 
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Not necessarily. If you know the day you got pregnant on you can definitely figure out if you are 3 weeks pregnant.

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Same here!

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Old 10-06-2011, 04:48 PM
 
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im 4 weeks pregnant and my husband is in the army, recently in august he got counseled for a rumored affair with a single soldier. But shes still been contacting him everyday, still trying to hold a relationship with him knowing that he's a married man, with hopes that he will leave me. Ive already spoke with his 1st sergeant in september about her still calling my husband and having an affair with him still. ans now september 27 i found out i was 3weeks pregnant, i put it on my fb, and she had her friends friend request me, and now she's saying she's pregnant 10 weeks pregnant n she just found out on the 25th, My husband started ignoring her advances she wanted to have sex with him and she pulled the why are you ignoring me im pregnant card. What should i do, what should he do, he say's he told her if she really is then she needs to get an abortion or the both of them could get into really big trouble. Ive done nothing but love my husband and he says the only way he sees it so that he wont get into trouble is to divorce me while im pregnant.

In August he got counseled for an affair. Now you are saying you are "three weeks" pregnant.

Question 1: Why would you let him even touch you three weeks ago, much less knock you up?

You put your pregnancy on Facebook. Now you are saying the other woman's friends sent you a friend request and the other woman is now saying she is pregnant.

Question 2: Why would you announce a pregnancy on Facebook so that the whole world could see it, much less one so early along, much less accept any requests from people you know are going to go back to the other woman?

This whole thing smacks of outrageous stupidity.

Question 3: Why do I bother responding?
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