Seeking advice... (best, boring, women)

[NoDoubt1993]

I know it will happen in time...and while I don't know how old you all are, I'm sure you remember being 18 and wanting to have a more exciting social life, lol. But I will "stand my ground", and I'm not changing my values for anyone. They have served me well so far in life, and I know they will do so as I get older. So, I shall keep waiting!

[funymann]

Originally Posted by NoDoubt1993

Thank you...I appreciate the kind words. And the encouragement.

I do hear and appreciate what everyone is saying...but the drinking's not going to happen, lol...not until I'm 21 anyway. As for my grades...I'm a physics major AND pre-vet, so my grades DO matter...a great deal. I also have scholarships to maintain. I didn't want to live on campus...I go to a major university right here in town, and commute from home (my choice...I have obligations that require me to be in this part of town on a daily basis anyway, and dorm life doesn't appeal to me). There is a small group of us from the honors program that have lunch together every Friday, but there's one guy and 8 girls, lol...I do make chit-chat with him, because I'd definitely go out with him if he asked me. I blew it a few weeks ago though, when he walked us all to the train at night after a function...everyone else had left, and he asked if I wanted him to stay there until the train came since it was night-time...STUPID me said no. See, I know that's part of the problem. But I am working on it.

You are fine. There is nothing wrong with you.

Listen...I am the KING of not picking up on hints. It's only after the fact that a friend says to me..."She was so hitting on you."

Please guard yourself from being used by a 'loser' guy who is just out to play you.

I just don't want you to get hurt and then hold a grudge through your life. You are doing everything right. Keep going the direction you are going.

You are 18 and don't need the drama of a relationship when you are that young. Take your time and keep doing your 'obligations' you speak of and just keep getting to know 'yourself' and what you could do for yourself in order to make a relationship successful.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by NoDoubt1993

I know it will happen in time...and while I don't know how old you all are, I'm sure you remember being 18 and wanting to have a more exciting social life, lol. But I will "stand my ground", and I'm not changing my values for anyone. They have served me well so far in life, and I know they will do so as I get older. So, I shall keep waiting!

You're a smart girl.

You will miss alot of pitfalls in life I assure you of that.

Thanks for posting on here. I think you will inspire many young ladies on here to do what you are doing.

[NoDoubt1993]

You are all so kind...thank you so much.

But if any of you live in the Denver area and know any nice, well-educated guys in the 20-24 year old age range, send them my way! lol

[akck]

Originally Posted by NoDoubt1993

Thank you...I appreciate the kind words. And the encouragement.

I do hear and appreciate what everyone is saying...but the drinking's not going to happen, lol...not until I'm 21 anyway. As for my grades...I'm a physics major AND pre-vet, so my grades DO matter...a great deal. I also have scholarships to maintain. I didn't want to live on campus...I go to a major university right here in town, and commute from home (my choice...I have obligations that require me to be in this part of town on a daily basis anyway, and dorm life doesn't appeal to me). There is a small group of us from the honors program that have lunch together every Friday, but there's one guy and 8 girls, lol...I do make chit-chat with him, because I'd definitely go out with him if he asked me. I blew it a few weeks ago though, when he walked us all to the train at night after a function...everyone else had left, and he asked if I wanted him to stay there until the train came since it was night-time...STUPID me said no. See, I know that's part of the problem. But I am working on it.

This is probably your limiting factor for not being asked out yet. Decades ago, I too lived at home while going to school and years later realized that it limits social interactions just by being off-campus those few hours. Granted, there was nothing wrong with living at home, but it does reduce your contact time with other students.

Another thing to remember is that boys you're likely interested in are just as shy and uncertain as you are and even are a little dense. You might have to show them some interest before they'll ask you out. Remember that most campuses have a majority of females so your competition can be great.

[UnexpectedError]

Pish posh, to not drinking for legal reasons. The drinking age should really be 18 anyway. It's an activity that takes a little practice to get right and the ones who sit around waiting for Johnny Law to grant you permission are the ones who overdo it when they finally start.

But whatever. My advice has been considered and rejected but you clearly have obstacles to jump before you get to the question of to drink or not to drink. I mean, when you live at home and your only social interactions revolve around studying, what do you expect? Your prince isn't going to come galloping up one day to sweep you off your feet, especially if you're always hiding at home or school, you have to go find him.

I think I'm coming off harsher than I intend, but the reality is that if you aren't out there then how is any guy supposed to find you?

[CTR36]

Originally Posted by UnexpectedError

Pish posh, to not drinking for legal reasons. The drinking age should really be 18 anyway. It's an activity that takes a little practice to get right and the ones who sit around waiting for Johnny Law to grant you permission are the ones who overdo it when they finally start.

But whatever. My advice has been considered and rejected but you clearly have obstacles to jump before you get to the question of to drink or not to drink. I mean, when you live at home and your only social interactions revolve around studying, what do you expect? Your prince isn't going to come galloping up one day to sweep you off your feet, especially if you're always hiding at home or school, you have to go find him.

I think I'm coming off harsher than I intend, but the reality is that if you aren't out there then how is any guy supposed to find you?

Not necessarily
My guy found ME at school. While I wasn't drinking. While he wasn't drinking. And here we are together 26 years later, STILL not drinking. While the others who WERE drinking have been married and divorced, married and divorced and now are all alone, drinking! But now they are old and fat and ugly.
Drinking brings you nothing but loneliness and sadness.

[UnexpectedError]

Originally Posted by CTR36

Not necessarily
My guy found ME at school. While I wasn't drinking. While he wasn't drinking. And here we are together 26 years later, STILL not drinking. While the others who WERE drinking have been married and divorced, married and divorced and now are all alone, drinking! But now they are old and fat and ugly.
Drinking brings you nothing but loneliness and sadness.

Well if that's not the most slanted comment I've seen in awhile...

I never said alcohol was a necessary component of living a happy life. It shouldn't be, anyway. But if you're a shy, quiet, reserved person in search of social fulfillment, a couple drinks can do you a world of good.

Lifelong relationships start in all forms. Blind dates, drunken hookups, run-ins at the grocery store, marital set ups, even throwing up on a stranger.

Drinking in college brought me many friendships, relationships, and experiences I know I would not have had without the aid of that social lubricant. No loneliness. No sadness.

[Sunnydee]

Women are like
apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The men don't want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
one to come along, the one
who's brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.

-Pete Wentz

[NoDoubt1993]

Originally Posted by Sunnydee

Women are like
apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The men don't want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
one to come along, the one
who's brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.

-Pete Wentz

I love this! Thank you for posting it!