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You might meet some unbelievable people whom you become attracted to.
it's a bad idea to eliminate any ways of meeting people. you might miss the once-in-a-lifetime person.
I've met a lot of amazing people here. They may never result in a date or relationship, but they are still amazing people. i hope every person on my friends list-not very many of you anymore btw understands this.
I'm pretty happy with it, it serves it intended purpose. It actually a lot like real life, I'm not getting women throwing themselves at me but I'm not getting ignored either. Whoever said its just whales is wrong, there's plenty of anorexic stick figures and everything in between up to and including whales. I think I've read that for every woman there are 5 or so men, so I can see where that might frustrate some men.
My theory on it is give it some time then you can see who is a career serial dater and who is legit. There's a fair amount of weeding out that has to occur because there's hookers, scammers, haters, fakes on these sites. I also have a theory that the sites kinda bury you and limit your exposure while throwing membership ads at you to increase your chances and I stay free always. It seems to warm up after a month or two. I've had some ok dates and one decent year and a half relationship in the limited time I've been doing it. I think the negative stigma it carries with it is as narrow minded as much as someone would say about the bar scene. Not all woman are bad just because they're on OLD, at the bar, or even church.
problem with online dating these days is that the women outearn the men in many cases but have become ridiculously stingy with their money. Why? Be generous towards men as well... that is my message, share the load of the expenses when dating and have some dignity. The vast majority of women I have dated, it's the 3rd or 4th date and they are just sitting there staring at the ceiling when the check arrives...shame!
Whoever said its just whales is wrong, there's plenty of anorexic stick figures and everything in between up to and including whales.
Haha...nice.
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Originally Posted by bannedontherun
I think I've read that for every woman there are 5 or so men, so I can see where that might frustrate some men.
That's probably not true. There might be a slight plurality of men trolling around dating websites. Who knows. But the real thing to understand is that it probably just SEEMS that way because of how men and women differ in how they size each other up. This is no different that how it is in real life, its just that the relative anonymity of the internet allows people to behave how they really want to behave with relatively few consequences. That is to say, women no matter what they look like will tend to ignore the bottom 80% of the male population and lavish their attention on the top 20% best guys in the pool, because this is the female of species' prerogative on a biological level. She doesn't want a bunch of guys, just the best one. where as the guys will take an approached that roughly mirrors that...the bottom 20% of women will get mostly ignored while the top 80% will get plenty of guys barking up their tree. This of course is the male prerogative. We don't need the BEST woman per se, (which is highly subjective anyway), we want ALL the women. At least the all the women we personally find attractive enough to sleep with.
If you're a guy who doesn't "look good on paper", so to speak -- meaning you're not 6'0"+ or don't having a good job -- then you have to put in a lot of time browsing/swiping/messaging/etc. to get a single woman to converse with you.
If you're a guy who doesn't "look good on paper", so to speak -- meaning you're not 6'0"+ or don't having a good job -- then you have to put in a lot of time browsing/swiping/messaging/etc. to get a single woman to converse with you.
Uh, no, its not that easy. I look good on paper (6'0", good career) and I can't get anywhere with it either.
Online dating has worked well with me and got me my first relationship. If anything, I don't see why some guys bother approaching women in real life seeing that it's bound to end in rejection for the majority of the time. At least on dating sites, you know that women are on there with the common goal of finding a relationship.
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why do guys even bother with online dating?
