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Old 10-18-2011, 05:06 PM
 
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i don't think that changes a thing really.
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Old 10-18-2011, 11:54 PM
 
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I'm 34 and a gay male. I've known i was gay since i was a small boy. I'm very much gay and have never even felt a twinge of attraction towards the opposite sex until recently. I've started to find a few girls attractive in ALMOST a sexual sense. I've never been even remotely attracted to a woman before.

One of these women is Kelly Kelly, she's a blonde WWE diva. at work there is this one girl who i'm slightly attracted too, it feels like i'm attracted to her in a playful sense. I kinda like to bug her in a little kid sort of way and she does it back.

I'm still very much gay but why am i having these recent unnatural attractions towards women. Am i turning slightly bi?

I don't know if i could really go through with 'the act' if you don't know what i mean but up until now i never felt anything towards women.

could this have to do with the intense therapy due to childhood trauma that i've been going through over the past year. Much of this trauma has to do females. I've always had a little bit of hidden hatred towards females, besides being gay due to ths. Could it be because i'm healing from this trauma.

I'm pretty sure this trauma didn't cause me to be gay, because i've known i was gay pretty much my whole life, even before these events.

any thoughts?
I'm definitely gay and had a similar slight increase in attraction to women when i hit age 35. I'm still very gay, but on a scale of 1 to 7, where 1 is totally gay & 7 is totally straight, I probably moved a half a notch along the scale from 1.5 to 2. The trigger for me was falling in love with a guy who claimed to be bisexual. (I'm not sure if he really was). The relationship was a major heartbreaker and changed me permanently in a lot of ways. I don't understand how this works, but I know that relationship somehow moved me a little bit on that scale for some reason.

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Old 10-19-2011, 12:37 AM
 
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OP: If it matters any, I know a couple who are happily married. The guy who used to be my hair dresser is very effeminate while the wife who was in the army is beautiful but very masculine in nature.

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Old 10-19-2011, 05:55 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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No-one IMO is 100% straight or gay.
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Old 10-19-2011, 04:45 PM
 
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No-one IMO is 100% straight or gay.
Respectfully disagree with the above -- I am 100% straight (no attraction at all -- ever -- to my same gender). The single and only one thing that can generate potential thoughts of intimacy for me is the opposite gender. Always been that way for me, and without any exceptions.
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Old 10-19-2011, 06:54 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Respectfully disagree with the above -- I am 100% straight (no attraction at all -- ever -- to my same gender). The single and only one thing that can generate potential thoughts of intimacy for me is the opposite gender. Always been that way for me, and without any exceptions.
I'm of the belief nothing is absolute or certain in life.....except death and taxes.
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Old 10-19-2011, 11:09 PM
 
Location: Houston, Texas
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No-one IMO is 100% straight or gay.
The only people who say that are people who are confused about their sexuality.
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Old 10-19-2011, 11:13 PM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Read the post above yours. It applies for everything in life, except those two.
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Old 10-19-2011, 11:18 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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I Don't really watch the WWE so I don't know who Kelly Kelly is but since she is a WWE "Deva" she is a rather masculine female, THIS could be what you are attracted to.
The woman watches WWE and I see a little of it and I don't find any of the Devas sexually attractive, I like women to look like women not men with small boobs, or implants as in Chyna's case.

Is the woman at work on the masculine side too?
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Old 10-19-2011, 11:25 PM
 
Location: Houston, Texas
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You are being a bit too pedantic here. Of course nobody remembers much at teh age of one. And of course sexuality does not manifest very much at the age of 5 (I could be wrong on this of course). But the practical upshot of the OP is that he had gay feelings for as long as he can remember.
You are missing my point... the environmental effects on our personality, habits, addictions, and lifestyle begin to affect us BEFORE our brains are developed enough to remember them. You might remember gay thoughts at age 7, but if something at age 4 turned you gay, you probably don't remember it.
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