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He had many great qualities, and I invested a lot of time trying to encourage him see things a little differently--to focus on the positive etc..but it didn't "take." I finally realized that the nihilism is something that he actively holds onto, perhaps as a protective mechanism.
I have been wondering today if maybe he was driving me away on purpose, even subconciously, so he has more proof of how ****ty life is.
I am feeling pretty sad actually. I hate being the instrument of more pain for him.
Sounds like he was clinging to past negative experiences, And the booze was a crutch and a catalyst to express himself. Though this sounds like alcoholism or the beginning of it if he is at it every night also. Certainly not a good way to live with so much inability to let go the past. Hopefully he will shake this one day.
I have been wondering today if maybe he was driving me away on purpose,
If people are not happy where they are at in life, why do they feel the need, to hunt and dig, for an excuse to leave? I mean, just leave! Stop making everyone else miserable around you, by trying to make yourself look better, by waiting for them to mess up! Sad!
He had many great qualities, and I invested a lot of time trying to encourage him see things a little differently--to focus on the positive etc..but it didn't "take." I finally realized that the nihilism is something that he actively holds onto, perhaps as a protective mechanism.
I have been wondering today if maybe he was driving me away on purpose, even subconciously, so he has more proof of how ****ty life is.
I am feeling pretty sad actually. I hate being the instrument of more pain for him.
Some people just can't be helped - they are determined to be their own worst enemies.
It wasn't your job to save him from himself, but I'm glad you saved yourself and I'm sorry you are feeling sad that it had to be this way
Unless you're implying that you would be a sad/angry drunk.
I, on the other hand, am a happy/funny drunk.
There's also the "I love you guys!" drunk, who has vomit stains on his shirt, yet will run up to you and huge you and yell "I love you man!" all of the time.
Alcoholism is a progressive disease and unless this disease is treated, it will get worse. There is no cure for this disease, it is only a matter of whether he is sober or not. That's it.
Apparently the following is good enough to keep him around for 3 months. which isn't half bad:
"He was smart, good looking, classy, decent in bed, and a gentlemen when it counted."
Many woman will put up with and have children with worse than the OP
Did you give him DAS BOOT when he was sober or drunk?
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