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It's just not as threatening because, as a guy, I don't view women as my competition. I wouldn't have a problem having a bisexual gf/wife as long as she wasn't messing around with other guys.
A common enough view, and understandable enough.
In contrast alot of women are threatened by other men. If a guy has a need to be penetrated by another man, the woman would have to get out the *****, or use her fingers, if that counts.
It has happened when I’ve travelled to a country where society is homogenous or whoever you say it. For example, countries in Africa, Asia, etc. where someone can stand out for having different physical features. I was in Cancun, Mexico, with a Japanese girl and these 2 guys were checking her out. Not in a vulgar way necessarily. I slowly pulled her closer to me from her lower back towards me and gave these guys a cool “hhmm mmhh” kind of smile and they just nodded in approval. Did it make me uncomfortable? Well, if they continued staring at her, probably. But it was nothing big. The guys were friendly. On our way back from the island to mainland we even had a brief conversation and they politely told me they thought my girl was cute and thought it was cool I spoke some Spanish to them.
If we interact with a sexy, my-type sales lady, after we leave my girlfriend will jokingly say "You so liked her!" and I will say "Yea, she was pretty cute". When we interact a sexy man or pass by Holister with all the shirtless male models outside, I will say "Damn, that guy had some nice abs" and she will say "Ohhhh I know".
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Do you get upset when your spouse/GF/BF looks at somone else of the oppersite sex? Would you be more worried if they were checking out someone of the same sex?
What about someone else checking them out does it upset you seeing someone else lust after them?
I'll just answer this by being the one who looks. If I were with my man I would not be checking out other men. I'm on my own enough to where I can control myself and do it then if I feel I must. When I'm with him, I want him to feel like he's all I see, because it's true.
ETA; In fact, last time we were together he said to me, I noticed you don't check out other guys... It never even occurred to me til he said something. It really is true, when I'm with him, I don't need to check out others.
I have no problem with women checking out my guy. Everyone needs positive affirmation.
While I have no doubt my SO checks out other women, but never so I notice it. If I see a totally hot woman I'll point her out. I'm sure my SO even has lust for some of the women he sees, and that's fine... that's just looks. He's always been a "total package" type of guy, looks is only one part.
Do you get upset when your spouse/GF/BF looks at somone else of the oppersite sex? Would you be more worried if they were checking out someone of the same sex?
I get mildly upset when she checks out men. But I can't get that upset because I check out women. I'd be worried if she checked out a woman, because she is definitely not that type.
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What about someone else checking them out does it upset you seeing someone else lust after them?
A younger me used to care. Me now? I'd only worry is men didn't check her out.
I don't think it's all that appropriate for one's spouse/gf/bf to check out members of the opposite sex; mainly because it will usually make one's mate feel inadequate no matter how confident or successful they may be. I realize that everyone has eyes and that you can't prevent anyone from looking, but if my gf (fortunately, I'm currently single) broke her neck trying to check out some other guy that she clearly found highly attractive, I'd consider ending the relationship. Why? Because I've been around long enough to know that usually indicates that she'd cheat on me, or at least entertain the other guy's advances, if I weren't there (I don't trust women because I've hooked up with a lot of women in relationships and know how many of them are if they don't think they'll get caught).
In terms of my gf checking out someone of the same sex out, I'd be perfectly fine with it because I believe that most women are bisexual by nature and that finding a truly straight woman is rare. Also, women like to observe other women for reasons that have nothing to do with physical attraction.
As for someone else checking out my spouse/gf, I'd be perfectly fine with it because it proves I have something they want, but won't get (hopefully.. lol), and that I did a good job of selecting a mate.
who are the women you are hanging with and/or meeting? I'm a woman. There is absolutely nothing bi anywhere within me. I know many, many women .... most, if not all, feel the same way.
Are there gay women in the world? obviously.
Are there bi women in the world? obviously.
but to say that most women are bisexual by nature is completely untrue..... maybe in your circle of friends, but not overall.
I don't think it's all that appropriate for one's spouse/gf/bf to check out members of the opposite sex; mainly because it will usually make one's mate feel inadequate no matter how confident or successful they may be. I realize that everyone has eyes and that you can't prevent anyone from looking, but if my gf (fortunately, I'm currently single) broke her neck trying to check out some other guy that she clearly found highly attractive, I'd consider ending the relationship. Why? Because I've been around long enough to know that usually indicates that she'd cheat on me, or at least entertain the other guy's advances, if I weren't there (I don't trust women because I've hooked up with a lot of women in relationships and know how many of them are if they don't think they'll get caught).
In terms of my gf checking out someone of the same sex out, I'd be perfectly fine with it because I believe that most women are bisexual by nature and that finding a truly straight woman is rare. Also, women like to observe other women for reasons that have nothing to do with physical attraction.
As for someone else checking out my spouse/gf, I'd be perfectly fine with it because it proves I have something they want, but won't get (hopefully.. lol), and that I did a good job of selecting a mate.
It's just so hard to not look at a beautiful booty walking buy. She knows it too, and she'll stare at me, waiting for me to break eye contact to follow those voluptuous booties. then she playfully smacks me, and looks too. it is sexy
I don't care either way. Some people aren't possessive like that. I understand that it's arrogant, impossible, and just plain dumb to think like that. Who am I to control someone's natural impulses?
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